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Introducing Our “Dear Younger Queer Self” Contest Winners

July 1, 2020 LELO NEWS

There’s no how-to guide, no roadmap, no detailed manual. Everyone’s journey through discovering their sexuality looks a little bit different, but sharing our knowledge can help those who …

Shouldn’t Be Here Ch. 2 – An Erotic Series

July 1, 2020 EROTIC SERIALS

It had been a warm Summer night when we first met (isn’t it always?!). I remember the skin on my nose feeling tight from the day’s sun. My …

Take Pleasure into Your Own Hands for Orgasm Month!

June 30, 2020 Orgasm, Sex Toy Reviews

Your mind and body will tell you exactly what they need. All you have to do is listen. This Orgasm Month, LELO is taking a holistic approach to …

Terry – “Dear Younger Queer Self” Contest Finalist Story

June 30, 2020 LELO NEWS

As difficult as it may seem, you must love yourself and believe in your heart of hearts that there will be many others who love you, too. Being …

Luna Daydream – “Dear Younger Queer Self” Contest Finalist Story

June 29, 2020 LELO NEWS

Dear Younger Queer Self, Queer looks different for everyone. Just because you don’t look a certain way, or act a certain way, doesn’t mean you’re any less queer …

Shouldn’t Be Here Ch.1 – An Erotic Series

June 29, 2020 EROTIC SERIALS

I shouldn’t be here. To tell the truth, I don’t know how I got here. I always found it an unnerving thing – to arrive at a destination …

Brecken – “Dear Younger Queer Self” Contest Finalist Story

June 28, 2020 LELO NEWS

Oh Dear, You have done it again. You have went against the grain, against the narrative. You are fifteen and can’t stop wondering why you have to like …

4 Weird After-Sex Effects That Are Totally Normal

June 28, 2020 Orgasm, Sexual Health

Sex is complicated. I often wonder if we knew that there were consequences up front, would we ever even bother with it at all? Some consequences are obvious: …

LostBoy – “Dear Younger Queer Self” Contest Finalist Story

June 27, 2020 LELO NEWS

Dear Younger Queer Self, Dear little forest fae, dear big heart, dear chaos demon riddled with anxiety like the bark of a tree is riddled with insects, You …

5 Things The Smithsonian Taught Me about Sex

June 29, 2020 Sex Tips & Advice

Ah the Smithsonian, that age-old institution of science and reason. With an untouchable reputation for knowledge on all things natural, it’s only to be expected that within the …

K. Elizabeth – “Dear Younger Queer Self” Contest Finalist Story

June 26, 2020 LELO NEWS

Dear Younger Queer Self, One day, you won’t be afraid of people finding out who you are. One day, you’ll be proud of yourself and how far you’ve …

5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Contact Your Ex

June 30, 2020 Committed Relationship, Dating, Single

Someone once told me that, after a breakup, your heart should only hurt for half the amount of time the relationship lasted. So, a two-year relationship would equal …

Quinton Jordebrek – “Dear Younger Queer Self” Contest Finalist Story

June 25, 2020 LELO NEWS

When your mother asks you to wear a matching dress with your younger sister, don’t fight her. When the girl who spends most of her time in school …

The Most Common Issues Faced by Gay Couples – Guest Post by Michael Moran

June 25, 2020 Committed Relationship

As an openly gay therapist who specializes at the intersection of couples and sex therapy, a large number of the clients I see are also gay. And one …

Maz – “Dear Younger Queer Self” Contest Finalist Story

June 24, 2020 LELO NEWS

Dear Younger Queer Self, By the time you hit 30, you still won’t have everything figured out, but that’s OK. It turns out nobody else has it figured …

The Ethics of Masturbating In A Relationship

June 24, 2020 Committed Relationship, Dating, Masturbation

Is masturbation cheating? It’s one of those little questions that shouldn’t matter, and it doesn’t, until it really does. Like, ‘do we have enough oxygen?’ or ‘what happens …

Valerie – “Dear Younger Queer Self” Contest Finalist Story

June 23, 2020 LELO NEWS

Being queer is not a choice, but it does involve many choices. Here’s how yours turned out… When you were 9 and demanded “a boy’s haircut”, and everyone …

5 Ways Exercise Benefits Sex

June 23, 2020 Sexual Health

Sex is great for just about everything. It can even make your hair glossier. But it can be hard work, and good sex requires at least some level …

Not a Fan of the Knickers? Good. It’s No Panty Day.

June 22, 2020 LELO NEWS

While there are many theories about when and where No Panty Day originated, this act of liberation aims to break the taboos surrounding having to wear panties in …

Jessica Fesler – “Dear Younger Queer Self” Contest Finalist Story

June 24, 2020 LELO NEWS

Dear younger self, If I could offer just one piece of advice to help you navigate the road ahead, it would be this… Fuck the box. That’s it. …

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