The Best Couples’ Sex Toys for Beginners & Experts Alike
This article was scientifically fact-checked by Human Sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz.
So you and your partner have both decided to introduce a sex toy to your relationship, realizing how much added enjoyment it can bring to your sensual sessions. The question now is; ‘which one do I choose?’
Because of course different types of sex toys are useful for different types of sex, and require different levels of involvement during lovemaking – but finding best couples’ sex toy for you is no daunting task, because we’re here to help!
Best Sex Toys For Absolute Beginners
If you’re totally new to using sex toys in and outside of your relationship, you’re facing a bit of a learning curve – albeit a learning curve of the most pleasurable variety. If you’re just starting out, a small, external sex toy for clitoral stimulation will be very useful in helping you figure out what kind of vibe suits you best, and can instantly add some extra spice to your foreplay and lovemaking.
Using the original LELO design that so revolutionized pleasure products over a decade ago, LILY™2 has been updated with stronger vibrations and a truly unique feature: light aphrodisiac scent. Beneath its favored powder-soft ABS surface, we have been able to infuse the scents of Lavender and Manuka Honey, Rose and Wisteria and Bordeaux and Chocolat to create a delicate aroma in a body-safe way.
Elegant and oh-so-versatile, this fully-waterproof vibrator is like nothing you’ve quite seen before; it’s an oral sex simulator with unique cut-out handle gives effective and comfortable control during the heat of the moment. ORA™2 is the perfect choice for those who are very sensitive and otherwise might find strong, pin-point stimulation of the clitoris to be too intense.
Discover the hidden power behind this little lipstick-style vibe― that otherwise will go completely undetected in your bag or bedroom. Lightweight and with a simplistic 2-button controls (not to mention targeted vibrations) that make MIA™2 the mini-vibe that is most seamlessly incorporated into couples’ play.
So you’re already sex toy experienced but looking for new and novel ways to share your pleasure? Get a little more creative by taking your sexual adventures outside of the bedroom (and the house, even) by wearing vibrating pleasure beads as a sexy secret between you and your partner. When wearing one or two beads within the vagina, your movements will cause them to vibrate, for fantastic feelings that no one is the wiser of!
Intermediate users can also try turning him into their favorite vibrator to make the sensations of sex even more pleasurable. A wearable couples’ ring (AKA ‘cock ring’) not only offers a gentle bit of constriction to give him a slightly firmer, longer-lasting erection but if it features a vibrating motor, it will transfer these sensations down the shaft of his penis and to her clitoris as well. Meanwhile, if you’ve got a powerful enough external vibrator, it can be placed against the base of his penis to provide some deeply resonant sensations during sex and foreplay.
LELO Beads Noir™ is a sensual, battery-free product based on the centuries-old concept of Ben Wan balls, sometimes called ‘geisha balls’. A set consists of two balls, which can be used together in their black silicone harness, and removed with the retrieval cord. Inside each ball is a weighted bead that will rock and swirl with the movement of your own body. Worn vaginally, they can start your foreplay before you’ve ever come home from a night out, and both you and your partner will enjoy the unique sensations during anal sex.
TOR™2 (a couples’ ring, sometimes called a cock ring) is a consistent bestseller and a great introduction into sex toys for men. It is compact and stretchy, providing exactly that with a pleasure object perfect for enhancing and extending pleasure for both partners. It is perfect positions that are more up close and personal, such as missionary or when sitting in a lotus position, whether you wear it above or below the shaft of the penis.
A good way to think of SIRI™2 is as a bigger, more intense version of products like NEA™2. Fully waterproof and with a sleek partial-silicone coating, it offers overwhelming sensations for any erogenous zone of your or your partner’s body. SIRI™ 2 also has an exciting interactive feature―it has a sound-responsive mode that lets it vibrate and pulse along to ambient noises, whether they be your favorite sexy song or the sound of each other’s moans and sighs.
Congratulations, graduate; you’ve tried it all (twice!) and are still looking for more ways to share? Well, you’re in luck, because we’ve got just the right vibes for advanced explorers of intimacy.
At this level, you’ll no doubt possess the bravery to share public passions outside the bedroom, so we’ve got a unique proposition for you; how about a vibrating bullet-style vibrator you can wear discreetly inside while your partner controls the sensations with a wireless remote? When it comes to teasing and foreplay, can there be anything more fantastic than that?
And when the foreplay ends and the main event begins, advanced users can take their pleasures to new peaks with the wearable couples’ vibrator IDA™, which enhances the amazing sensations of lovemaking. With it’s incredible rotating and vibrating functions, it adds so much more to virtually any position you choose, especially doggy style, when it really ups the enjoyment. Just because you’ve reached the upper levels of sex toy experience doesn’t mean you can just rest on your laurels.
LYLA™2 is a bullet-style vibrator that’s nothing like what you’ve seen before. With its SenseMotion™ remote, the sensations felt within can be controlled with just a tilt of their wrist, opening all sorts of exciting possibilities for a daring night out. Of course, it can also be used externally, with the elegantly pointed tip lending itself to targeted (but not pinpoint) vibrations on the clitoris or other erogenous zones.
A couples’ massager truly like no other, IDA™ is worn internally during sex but it doesn’t just vibrate, it also rotates within. With a wide, rounded disc that serves as an external massager (vibrations travel well down the longer internal arm), it has a rather unique shape ―the sort that makes it perfect for one body but less ideal for another.
IDA™ is suited for someone whose clitoris sits lower over the entrance of their vagina, or those who find vibrations focused on their clitoris to be too intense and prefer external stimulation to be dispersed over their vulva.
Serving as the absolute gold standard of luxe coupled pleasure, TIANI™ 24k is an upgraded, dual-motor version of our award-winning TIANI™ design that delivers exhilarating internal and external pleasure―and looks good doing it. Like IDA™, it is worn during lovemaking, but TIANI™ 24k is smaller in size and puts more direct contact and pressure against the clitoris.
It is also one of our most undeniably beautiful massagers, featuring a 24 karat gold that symbolizes your commitment to each other’s pleasure…and as LELO’s own special commitment, we promise to replace the TIANI™ 24k couples’ massager with one of its bestselling products, in the unfortunate event that the couple part ways within 12 months of purchasing it together.
Facts checked by:
Dr. Laurie Mintz
Laurie Mintz, Ph.D., is a professor at the University of Florida, teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of students a year. She has published over 50 research articles and is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association. Dr. Mintz also has maintained a private practice for over 30 years, working with individuals and couples on general and sexual issues. She is also an author and speaker, spreading scientifically-accurate, sex-positive information to enhance sexual pleasure.
Katy Thorn is a post-grad writer with a passion for writing about sex, sexuality, and all things rated R. She received her degree in Women’s Studies with a focus in Intersectionality at the University of California, Berkeley (Go Bears!). She has a cat named Yoko, drinks too much black coffee, and hates writing bios.