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Sex Toys for Women, Vulvas and Vaginas—Finding the Right Toy for You

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This article was scientifically fact-checked by Human Sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz.

Manual masturbation is great, but we can all use an extra hand (or sex toy) sometimes. According to a survey about sex toy ownership in the U.S., nearly 80% of women over the age of 18 own a sex toy. Vibrators are by far the most common toys to own (78%), followed by dildos (60%) and anal toys (16%). Of course, these toys are awesome for anyone with a vagina and vulva – not just women!

This guide will go over these categories of sex toys for vulva owners, and then some! Whether you’re looking for the best vibrator, G-spot stimulation, or even a sex toy that mimics oral sex – we’ve got it all. Help us close the orgasm gap, one pleasure maker at a time.

*Please note that we use the phrase “sex toys for women” as often indicated by pop culture. However, these products are designed for everyone with a vulva or vagina (we’ve even seen people with penises get creative with the toys), regardless of their identity.

Clitoral Stimulation

Power to the clit! The overwhelming majority of women (99%!) report orgasming from clitoral stimulation during masturbation, either alone or coupled with penetration. Did you know that the visible part of the clitoris shows only the tip of the entire sexual organ? That’s why these toys are designed to stimulate much more of the clitoris compared to standard clitoral vibrators.

1. SONA 2 Cruise

LELO Sona 2

Chances are, if you’ve done your research on suction toys, you’ve probably heard about the SONA line of clitoral stimulators. It’s the most popular item by a landslide. Unlike other toys that stimulate the surface of the clitoris, SONA sends sonic waves deep into the clitoris to stimulate 75% more of it. If you read the reviews on it, many people also say it made them squirt for the first time – that’s some intense orgasms! You can check out the differences between the first and second generation here, and check out what Cruise Control technology is here.

Rating: 4.9/5

Defining Features: Cruise Control technology saves overall power to be unleashed when you’re pressing the toy hardest against your body for maximum pleasure.

Customer Reviews: “It’s unlike anything else I’ve seen on the market and really uncovers new sensations. It was fun learning about a part of my body I thought I’d explored thoroughly for decades. It was like the awesomest cunnilingus + vibrating. I had multiple deeply satisfying orgasms within moments of using it, and recommend it to every person with a clitoris! I wish there was a version for men (save me on the lockjaw, lol).”

Full Price $139

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2. SILA

sila product aqua

SILA is dedicated to the warm-up and steady pace of pleasure. When there’s no rush to reach orgasm, why not edge yourself to an intense and long-lasting climax? SILA does this by offering a wide range of vibration intensities, from very soft pulsing to incredible power. It also has a larger mouth to encompass not only the entire clitoris but also the surrounding erogenous zones like the labia and other areas of the vulva. If you’re more of the type to light some candles, slip into something sexy, and enjoy a night in than hit the town, this clitoral vibrator was made with you in mind.

Rating: 4.6/5

Defining Features: A wide array of intensities for buildable pleasure and edging, all while being whisper-quiet for extra stealthiness.

Customer Review: “SILA is the home companion I’ve been hoping to find. Cutting to the chase, SILA lives up to any and all hype: it’s powerful but ever so adjustable, quiet and discreet, easy to handle, and best of all so, so, effective. From gentle stimulation to mind-blowing orgasms, Sila has taken me wherever I’m in the mood to go. Bravo, Sila!”

Full Price $169

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3. SMART WAND

Smart Wand

If you’re looking for a multi-purpose massage wand that nobody would ever suspect was designed for sexual purposes, the SMART WAND is the queen of all massagers. Not only does this toy vibrate deep for ultimate relaxation, but it’s also incredibly powerful for those who know they can handle it. It’s cordless so you don’t have to worry about the hassle of having a plug nearby, plus the USB rechargeable battery gives you 2 hours of exploration with this magic wand. It comes in two sizes, SMART WAND Medium and SMART WAND Large. The second generation was also recently launched with a few added features including 10 different vibration settings.

Rating: 4.7/5

Defining Features: A body massager that gives you powerful and reliable vibrations that double for pleasure and pain relief.

Customer Reviews: “Purchased this (in black) as a muscle massager. The vibrations are powerful and it’s discreet and fits very nicely in my purse for when you’re on the go and need a simple neck massage while sitting in traffic or in the office. As a pleasure object, well…it doesn’t disappoint. The vibrations are those that we all know and love, the feel is smooth as silk, and for me, I found that it fits perfectly in between the labia if you should so choose to rub up against it cowgirl style, in the shower (oooof!) alone or with company, it will get you there!”

Full Price $149

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4. IPO 2

IPO 2 mini vibe

Let’s give a hand for one of the best vibrators for beginners and seasoned pros alike. IPO 2 is a tiny vibrator that is particularly convenient for people who travel or are looking for a discreet sex toy with plenty of power. This pocket vibe has super soft silicone and fits comfortably on your finger – or someone else’s. It’s so small that you can even keep it inside your underwear and wear it in public or use it while grinding against a pillow.

Rating: 4.1/5

Defining Features: When it comes to bullet vibrators, the IPO 2 is about as discreet as they come.

Customer Reviews: “Lovely little something for when you’re with a partner or just want to amp up your night alone.”

Full Price $49.95

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5. ORA 3

Ora 2

Love the eroticism of receiving oral sex? Then you’ll love ORA 3. It’s a clitoral stimulator with a rotating nub that mimics the human tongue, but without any strings attached. Who says you need to have a partner to get your fill of being eaten out? Not with ORA 3. This ring-shaped device contains a handle that makes it easy to control and press against yourself for direct clitoral stimulation. Make sure to add lots of lube to get this bit of silky smooth silicone feeling just like a mouth.

Rating: 4/5

Defining Features: Its revolutionary rotating nod mimics the human tongue, especially when in random mode.

Customer Reviews: “I bought this a couple of months ago. I love it! Looking at the item I did not see how it could possibly emulate oral sex. But it sure does. I love getting oral, but this is the safest way ever. Very happy I bought the Ora 3.”

Full Price $169

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6. SORAYA Wave

soraya wave blue

We consider the SORAYA Wave as a perfect example of a sex toy that satisfies both external and internal stimulation. Its diversity is just one of the reasons it’s been a top 3 seller month after month. Not only does this rabbit vibrator contain a smaller, flexible arm and a large shaft to explore the multiple vibration patterns, but it also contains wave technology. What does this mean? The two arms can also move towards each other in a “come hither” pinching motion to create tantalizing G-spot stimulation. Take a dive into the SORAYA WAVE for maximum pleasure.

Rating: 4.9/5

Defining Features: This dual vibrator gives you G-spot and clitoral stimulation for a wonderfully intense orgasm.

Customer Reviews: “I have this gem, may I say if you don’t know what your G spot is or just don’t seem to be able to get that toe-curling vaginal orgasm that you read about, get this, invest in your own pleasure. You will not be sorry. I still have not been able to last through more than 2 settings, I love this thing.”

Full Price $249

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Internal Stimulation

Another popular form of stimulation for vaginas and vulvas is vaginal or internal stimulation. However, many women prefer the option of a blended orgasm, so all of our internal toys also contain vibration that can be used externally on the clitoris or erogenous zones for dual stimulation. If you prefer stimulation that mimics a phallic movement or know that your sweet spots are internal, check out the following toys.

7. INA 2

INA wave

Another great rabbit vibrator is the INA 2, which has both a thicker shaft and a larger arm for internal and external stimulation. Its shape is quite unique to a rabbit vibrator because the shaft is curved to hit the inner wall of the vagina. It’s also 100% waterproof so you can have fun in the bath or shower. To check out more comparisons between INA 2 and SORAYA 2, click here.

Rating: 4.3/5

Defining Features: Shaped like a shaft with a little thumb on the side, this toy guarantees double joy – clitoral and G-spot stimulation.

Customer Reviews: “I purchased this to add some variety into the bedroom and also to introduce my wife to a g-spot orgasm. She likes it a lot and likes it when I use it on her. It’s very good quality, well made and works well. The power setting range is good…very low to very intense. She will have a g-spot orgasm after it’s inside her for a few minutes, then want me to get inside her for another orgasm. It’s definitely enhanced our intimate time. No complaints here!”

Full Price $149

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8. GIGI 2

LELO GIGI 2

A tip crafted to perfection, GIGI 2 is one of the best female vibrators for internal stimulation that hits all the sweet spots. It may appear small compared to some of our other vibrators, but it’s the perfect length for stimulating the internal erogenous zone commonly known as the G-spot. Although technically a G-spot vibrator, the versatile GIGI 2 can also be used to stimulate both clitoris and other erogenous zones like the nipples and anus. Incorporate it into some partner play and let your sweetie explore your body while you’re blindfolded!

Rating: 4.8/5

Defining Features: This G-spot vibrator has an un-intimidating size and a flattened tip that is amazing for those who like internal and external stimulation.

Customer Reviews: “Excellent design, materials, and operation. The unique shape does it all. My girlfriend loves it solo AND letting me take over while she just enjoys the benefits!”

Full Price $139

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9. MONA Wave

MONA 2

One of the best vibrators for women and other folks looking for G-spot stimulation, the MONA Wave is a great option to give your insides an erotic massage. It’s designed without an arm so that it can be easily coupled with clitoral toys, like SONA or the ever so discreet vibrator, the LILY 2. Discover your quickest route to orgasm by experimenting with multiple toys, because we believe you can have your cake and orgasm too.

Rating: 4/5

Defining Features: A stand-out amongst G-spot vibrators, the WaveMotion technology allows the shaft to “curl” onto your sweetest zones.

Customer Reviews: “I have been using this for years. Since then, I have orgasms consistently whenever I want. It has really helped our marriage and sex life. I highly recommend this. I grind on top of it for clitoral stimulation. I never use any of the movement settings. I love that I can increase or decrease the strength of the vibration. It is easy to clean and charge.”

Full Price $159

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10. ENIGMA Cruise

enigma unboxed packaging

Ready to hop on an orgasmic voyage? This dual stimulation sex toy blends a G-spot vibrator with a clitoral stimulator. This maverick of sex toys uses revolutionary cruise control technology that automatically increases in intensity when pressed hard against the body. Plus the increased battery life means a longer time for pleasure.

Defining Features: Sonic waves that give you gentle, yet clitoral stimulation with a flexible neck and ultra-powerful vibrations to target your G-spot just how you like it.

Customer Reviews: Will you be the first to hop on the ENIGMA Cruise and leave a review?

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Anal Stimulation

Since these toys are designed with functionality in mind, almost all of the internal stimulators can be used as an anal vibrator as well. Please just remember to wash them thoroughly or use toy cleaner before switching stimulation zones! Another very, VERY important reminder is to always use lube or personal moisturizer when exploring anal play, especially if you’re new to it. Let go of any stigmas and enjoy the art and satisfaction of a perineal sponge massage.

*Make no mistake-these anal toys aren’t just for prostates, they’re for anyone who wants to explore the backdoor. We receive tons of emails from women who get just as much joy using these toys as their male partners do. Just make sure to clean before swapping.

10. TANO 2

tano 2 anal

If you’ve been thinking about dipping your toes into anal stimulation and are looking for something a step up from using your own fingers, TANO 2 is a solid, medium-sized butt plug. It’s not intimidating, yet offers a girthy base to stimulate the many nerve endings on the anus. Don’t ever forget the lube!

Rating: 4.7/5

Defining Features: The TANO 2 is the perfect size for beginner anal play, plus 12 fun vibration modes to traverse.

Customer Reviews: “I bought this about a month ago to spice things up a little in the bedroom & BOYYYYY. It works! Love all the different vibration settings and it’s just the right size.”

Full Price $59.95

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11. HUGO

Hugo Black

The fun thing about HUGO is that it’s powered by remote control. This means total hands-free pleasure during solo or partnered play. During solo play, it gives you total freedom to discover new masturbation positions. Did you know that standing or sitting up increases the blood flow, increasing pleasure and sensitivity for an even more intense orgasm? Try it. You can also give your partner the remote and let them watch as you writhe in gradual anal ecstasy.

Rating: 5/5

Defining Features: This remote control-fueled anal stimulator is perfect for partner teasing or hands-free masturbation.

Customer Reviews: “Brilliant. Before or after you get tired of the routine add this to your life and it’ll make things a hundred times better.”

Full Price $159

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12. EARL

lelo earl

We know the EARL isn’t made for everyone. It’s made for those who live luxuriously in every sense of the word, even with sex toys that stay in their pleasure chests. What better way to celebrate a 50th “golden” wedding anniversary, or simply shower your partner with a gift that will make their jaws and panties drop? EARL is an anal massager made of 24k gold. Because of its material, it also makes for fun temperature play. The ring on the handle gives you complete control, plus it can be used vaginally.

Rating: 3.9/5

Defining Features: What makes the EARL so special? It’s a 4-letter word that starts with “g” and never gets old.

Customer Reviews: “An excellent gift idea to keep in the back pocket for that REALLY special someone.”

Full Price $1,990

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Couples Fun

Everybody needs alone time to discover their basic desires, and like they say, to get the best pleasure from a partner, you have to know what you like first. We encourage you to reap all the benefits of solo masturbation, and also reap the benefits of introducing sex toys into the bedroom!

13. TIANI 3

tiani 3

TIANI 3 is all about mutual stimulation. Of course, it can be used during solo play, but using it during partnered sex stimulates both the internal wall and clitoris of one partner while massaging the shaft of the other partner. TIANI 3 also contains SenseMotion technology, which means the intensity of the vibration patterns can be controlled by tipping the remote. Use it on a romantic night on the town as a form of foreplay to have you both begging for more when you return home.

Rating: 4/5

Defining Features: The remote control lets you play with exhibitionism and can provide stimulation for both partners.

Customer Reviews: “This was a joint Valentine present. We’ve tried other products before but they didn’t really work. Often they were far too uncomfortable. The Tiani 3 is an absolute top-quality project. I suppose the most surprising thing about it is you don’t really know it’s there until you really know it’s there!”

Full Price $159

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14. Transformer

Transformer rabbit vibe

One of the best sex toys for those that love to experiment. A rabbit vibrator, cock-ring, clitoral stimulator, and anal massager all in one! The transformer contains two flexible arms that can be inserted wherever you’re feeling like exploring. Use it solo for double stimulation or use it with a partner and enjoy the toy together. It can even be used as a double-ended clitoral vibrator or double-ended dildo. No labels needed.

Rating: 5/5

Defining Features: True to its name, the TRANSFORMER is as versatile as sex toys get, lots of possibilities with this one.

Customer Reviews: “A truly versatile toy!! We’ve spent hours exploring the various configurations, and found a few of our own too! I would highly recommend this toy to everyone, from beginners to the more well versed, this toy doesn’t disappoint!”

Full Price $119

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15. LYLA 2

lyla 2

Another great remote-controlled toy is LYLA 2. It’s a more traditionally thought of bullet vibrator that delivers big sensations with 8 vibration settings. It contains the same SenseMotion technology and is worn completely internally in the vagina to stimulate the inner walls. You can again use ait s a wearable panty vibrator for some exhibitionist foreplay, or keep it inserted during anal sex. If you want to use it during vaginally penetrative sex, simply use the string for easy removal and hold it against yourself for clitoral stimulation. Versatility is key, whether that be with solo or partnered sex!

Rating: 4.6/5

Defining Features: The LYLA 2 is perfect for foreplay or in addition to anal sex.

Customer Reviews: “Me and my partner love this set. We’ve used it in public, when we go for walks, or even over dinner. It is SO HOT — inexplicably sexy for us to look each other in the eye as one person feels the vibrations and the other one controls.”

Full Price $149

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17. HULA Beads

HULA Beads is taking remote control sex toys to the next level. The first of its kind, this is the only toywith  rotating and vibrating pleasure beads for a hands-free experience that will have you dancing all night long! Similar to Ben Wa balls but with powerful, yet discreet vibration patterns that take you from a teasing murmur to a satisfying pulse. A whisper-quiet device that gives you the freedom to enjoy this tantalizing sensation no matter where you are.

Rating: 4.4/5

Defining Features: These beads rotate within you, creating satisfying swirling sensations.

Customer Reviews: “I have tried multiple toys and Ben Was balls before to help strengthen my Kegels. I have difficulty orgasming and I never climax through vaginal stimulation alone. Well, thanks to the Hula bead I have. This thing is great at finding new areas of stimulation and pleasure. It’s also very easy to exercise with because it stimulates you and guarantees you will enjoy your workout to the very end.”

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