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Anal (Uni)Sex: Why Anal Play Can Feel Good for Every Body

Curious about anal play? Great! Because there are plenty of resources on trying anal sex for the first time, the very best anal sex positions, and how to enjoy anal sex day (which is on April, 18th FYI).  

Today however, we’re going to cover other ways to stimulate the anus for both men and women.

  • For men: the art and satisfaction of prostate massaging
  • For women: the art and satisfaction of perineal sponge massaging

Get excited, because after reading our nifty little guide you may just want to drop what you’re doing, (and wearing!) and enjoy a passionate tryst with your partner or a bit of alone time with yourself.

Why is anal sex so good

But First, What’s All the Hype With Anal Stimulation?

Did you know that the opening of the anus is filled with a seemingly endless amount of sensitive nerve endings? In fact, even light pressure from a finger or two can be extremely enjoyable for both men and women.

And because it is so sensitive—and we may be less used to receiving any action back there—stimulating the area has the potential to feel as though every sensation gets magnified tenfold! 

That, combined with the slower initial approach that is best to employ for anal play, have lead many people to report that anal stimulation can be an almost overwhelmingly intense and sensual act to experience.

It’s important to remember though, for both men and women, that the key to experiencing anal bliss, is to start slow and to use a lot of lube! The anus doesn’t produce natural lubrication like the vagina, and without it—you’ll more than likely have a bad experience.

With that, here are some things men can do to enjoy the perks of anal play.

The Prostate: A Gateway to Great Pleasure

The prostate is a walnut-sized, semen-storing gland located at the root of the penis, just below the bladder. 

And when it’s stimulated, it can make for some intense orgasms which feel different (and for many, better) than those experienced during regular masturbation and sex.

Still however, some guys, especially straight men, may feel a bit intimidated at the thought of having their prostate stimulated – be it with a partner or solo, despite the known benefits of massaging the prostate

Luckily, the stigma is slowly disappearing with the sale of anal stimulation toys increasing by 56 percent over the past five years!

So, let’s make it easier for you so that you can eradicate the uneasiness of this sexual practice, and enjoy new and exciting orgasms via the prostate.

A Step-by-Step Guide For First-Time Prostate Stimulation

When it comes to stimulating the prostate, there are two different methods. 

Indirect, which is done via anal penetration and perineum pressure, and direct, which is done via urethral sounding (inserting a toy into the penis). 

The most common of the two, is anal penetration—which is what you’ll learn about today.

When you or your partner decide to use your fingers, make sure your fingernails are trimmed and remember to take things slow. The anus is a lot more sensitive and delicate than the vagina, so it’s incomparable to practice the same technique as vaginal fingering.

Then, it’s highly recommended for the receiver to empty his bowels before this kind of anal play. This can be done via anal douching. 

After you’re prepared, you can get yourself into a comfortable position.

For-first time (and in actuality, recurring) occasions, we recommend using a massager designed for your anatomy. After all, it’s not exactly the easiest part of your body to reach.

But if you choose to use your fingers, make sure that they’re all lubed up beforehand, and to relax your butt. In order to reach the prostate, you’ll have to enter two sphincters—the anal entrance, which is voluntary, and the second sphincter—which is involuntary.

Once one of your fingers is around two cm’s in, you’ll reach the internal second anal sphincter. It may prove a little difficult to surpass this muscle, so take your time. When you’re relaxed, you’ll be able to move in a bit further. 

Once you reach about seven or eight cm’s deep, you should bend your finger slightly as to touch the anal walls. You’ll then notice a different kind of tissue and a round bump—this is your P-spot! 

To massage it, you’re going to want to put firm pressure on this spot—like pressing a doorbell and then releasing, and moving your finger from left to right.

You may feel a bit of discomfort at first, but if you experience any pain—you’re doing it wrong.

If you’re doing it right—you’ll gain an erection without stimulation and drops of pre-cum might come out. You may feel as though you need to pee, but this is completely normal. 

Then, for the grand finale, the big O usually lasts for 30 – 60 seconds. It’ll be a dry orgasm, so you could even go for round two if you want! Yay for men experiencing multiple orgasms!

And last, but not least, here are some things women can do to enjoy the perks of anal play.

The Perineal Sponge: Hitting the Right Spot

As you may well know, a woman doesn’t have the same anatomy as her male counterpart. Which is why a whole different method is used to gain anal pleasure.

Again, if you or your partner decide to use your fingers, make sure your fingernails are trimmed and remember to take things slow. The anus is a lot more sensitive and delicate than a vagina, so it’s incomparable to practice the same technique as vaginal fingering.

Then, it’s highly recommended for the receiver to empty her bowels before this kind of anal play. This can be done via anal douching. 

For women to benefit from this practice, indirect stimulation via the wall that separates the vagina and the rectum, known as the perineal sponge (PS) is required. 

The PS is rife with nerve tissue and is found directly opposite the G-spot. It’s an area that gets filled with blood and swells during arousal (just like a man’s penis).

A Step-by-Step Guide For First-Time Perineal Sponge (PS) Stimulation

The best way to stimulate the PS is to use a finger – or even better, two fingers. Have you ever heard of “the shocker”? Yes, it’s this very action that’ll get a woman to O-town.

To do this, place your thumb inside the vagina and your index finger into your anus. Apply pressure with your thumb in the opposite direction (the back lower wall of the vagina) and allow your index finger to push up. 

Whilst doing this, your sacral nerve will be stimulated, which causes a bulbocavernosus reflex, (picture what happens when you hit your knee), which is a reflex from the spine. During this reflex, the clitoris will move or contract.

In short, the result will be a mind-blowing and intense orgasm… if done correctly. But, as they say, practice makes perfect. 

And for those who would prefer to use a toy as opposed to fingers, the LIV 2 is a mid-sized vibrator with just the right curve to stimulate those hard-to-reach spots. 

Its vibrations come from the head of the device, giving you more power and ultimately, more pleasure. It’s a great toy for anal stimulation, especially for beginners or those who are still getting used to the sensation.

And there you have it—an ultimate guide on how to orgasm anally using your hands or a toy. Try it solo or with a partner… either way will be just as satisfying!

About Helena Lorimer

Helena Lorimer
Helena is a sex-positive freelance copywriter in her early 30’s from Cape Town, South Africa. She’s travelled and lived in various countries in Asia and Europe for almost a decade, and continues to live her dream — traveling the world independently as a copywriter. Having written for various companies and magazines within the industry, she has extensive knowledge in the field of sexual health, the escort industry, and sex toy marketing.

One comment

  1. My wife and I prefer A.S., because after two births her vagina has expanded and vaginal sex has ceased to satisfy us. We use the WC 2 female condom. We introduce it with the help of a small dildo, which we use as an applicator. This condom protects the walls of the anus from damage due to friction and can remain inside as long as necessary. And can be used two and more times at night.

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