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How to Introduce Sex Toys into Your Relationship

While some people may not be entirely familiar with the idea of using toys during partnered sex, anyone who already uses a sex toy for solo masturbation can probably imagine the pleasurable twist they can add. Sex toys are the perfect way for fun-loving couples to increase intimacy while further exploring their relationship.

The introduction of a sex toy into your love life in no way means there is something wrong with it. In fact, if anything, it is quite the opposite;  using sex toys with your partner can mean that you are both comfortable sharing different types of pleasure with each other.

We at LELO know a thing or two about this, so if you’re wondering exactly HOW to starting using sex toys as a couple,  we’re always more than happy to help.

Talk it Over

Sure we all love a good dose of spontaneity in the sack, but when it comes to introducing a sex toy into the equation, we recommend discussing it with your partner first before you actually do it.

Simply pulling it out of drawer in the middle of sex may drive your partner wild with excitement – like we say, you know best – but it could also give them the impression that what they have been doing up until now hasn’t been satisfying for you, which would almost certainly lead to a lengthy and probably mood-killing conversation.

Be Honest

Being open and honest with each other about what you want and why you want it will help you both to enjoy your new addition as it takes you to a whole new level of shared satisfaction.

Again this does not necessarily mean something is wrong with the sex you’re already having; as humans we all crave novelty and exploring new things with a partner is one of the best ways to solidify  your bond.

Shop Together

Shopping for a sex toy is already pretty fun on your own, but looking at pleasure products to use together is an amazing way to up the anticipation. Think of sending product screenshots and reviews to each other as a new form of sexting!

Share the Wealth

While there are many different kinds of sex toys for couples – and in fact, really any sex toy that you use together technically becomes a couples toy, there are some specifically designed to be used together.

They range from couples’ rings like TOR 2, or wearable vibrators like TIANI 3, but in the end it will completely depend on what sort of sensations you both are looking for. Maybe you’d prefer the flexibility of using a ‘feels-good-everywhere’ handheld massager, or you crave the power of a wand vibrator. Whichever sex toy you decide is best for you, just remember to enjoy – and make sure that everyone is having the best time they can!

Once you get comfortable using toys in tandem, it will open you up to a whole new world of sensations, whether it’s with vibrations you share or even something kinkier!

About Donna Turner

Donna is a Volonté contributor and freelance writer who lives in San Francisco with her husband and two sons. Her work has appeared in Psychology Today, Go! Magazine (Australia) and is regularly featured in the San Francisco Herald.


  1. I did not try using a sex toy until I was 28. Although I’ve always been open-minded, pretty sex-related and relaxed with my body system, I’d never gotten around to actually getting one, for a lot of ridiculous factors. I was embarrassed; the only time I’d been to sex stores was with other lovers and there was no way I was going to buy a vibe at the top side of someone I realized. None of my buddies had ever described self pleasure, which was the only purpose I could think of to try a sex toy, so I certainly was not relaxed referring to it with them.

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