BDSM Toys & Tips for Beginners

BDSM Toy Tips for Beginners

Everyone’s got a wild side, but for many, it lies dormant without a suitable outlet. If the bedroom is where you’d like to release the pressure valve on your wilder ways, make sure you’ve got the right tools to share by stocking your BDSM toy box with the following;

Blindfolds

INTIMA Silk Blindfold review

Limiting or completely taking away one sense will amplify others, which is what makes a blindfold such a handy item to have in your romantic roster of intimate items. It can also offer a sense of surrender – once it’s on, your partner’s next caress could come at any time, on any part of your body…

Top Tip: With your partner’s eyes blindfolded, feed them strawberries with cream or pitted cherries with chocolate sauce with your fingers, and let them anticipate what’s really for dessert!

 

Handcuffs

SUTRA chainlink cuffs review

Restraining oneself from doing what your body tells you during sex seriously ups the intensity of enjoyment, and for the one not wearing them, handcuffs offer a change in the balance of power in the most pleasurable way. We have gone on at length about the different sex positions we like to use handcuffs in, so it’s just a matter of testing them all out to find your favorite!

Top Tip: Use this opportunity to practice edging your partner to their ultimate pleasure. Express what you want to do to them through dirty talk and don’t underestimate the use of your mouth all over their erogenous zones.

 

Whips & Floggers

Sensua Suede Whip Review

Contrary to the general image in most peoples’ minds, whips and whipping as part of BDSM play need not always be painful, though for some that is the entire point. Whipping can be done simply to impart a slight sting or type of touch that jolts because it’s so unusual in our day to day lives. A whip, like handcuffs, signifies control to the one wielding it, putting you in the driver’s seat for the pleasurable proceedings.

Top Tip: After giving a few firm strokes of the whip, gently blow on the area – the variation of touch will send their reception to touch into overdrive.

 

Feather Teasers

Tantra feather teaser

A gentle sensory titillation may be the exact change up you and your partner are looking for. While human touch is eventually inevitable in scenes like this, a feather teaser can awaken the body’s nerve endings and leave an erotically impressionable feeling.

Top Tip: Play upon the sensitivity of your partner by sweeping a down feather teaser to revel in their romantic writhing. From long, heavy strokes from head to toe, to light sensations on the neck or between thighs.

And to Finish…

Don’t forget about aftercare! It can be kisses and cuddles, an emotional heart to heart, or even just a nice body massage while you watch a rom com – it’s all about taking yourselves back out of the intense scene you just explored so both partners feel secure.

Written by: Lea Marsden

Lea Marsden
For Lea, what once was “a European summer abroad” turned into traveling the world and studying sexual cultural differences for the past 6 years. She has a PhD in Gender & Sexuality and has a theory that dating guys in their twenties is an unpaid internship. She’s currently writing from a cafe in New Zealand.

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