Many people put in careful time and effort to ensure they don’t get pregnant. But for some people, the risk of having a baby is a huge turn-on, and this fetish is more common than you’d think. Just scroll on the breeding fetish Reddit page if you’re in doubt!
What is a Breeding Fetish?
A breeding fetish is when someone finds themselves extremely attracted to the concept of either getting pregnant or getting another person pregnant.
With this fetish, the risk of permanent consequences – something that many people are terrified by – is the hot part. With this fetish, the “breeder” typically ejaculates into the anus or vagina of a submissive partner. The ejaculation can be real or fantasy, done by people of any gender or sexuality.
Why Do People Have Breeding Fetishes?
For some people, it’s about the fantasy of raising a child, creating something together, or simply the primal and animalistic nature of the act of using a uterus in the way that nature intended.
For others, it’s about power play and submitting to the person ejaculating. In breeding dom/sub power play, the dom controls the sub to impregnate them. It reflects ownership in a way that’s a turn-on for people who are into this kink. It can also be appealing for people who have a degradation or objectification kink as it turns the body into an object solely for childbearing.
As fantasy is at the core of a breeding kink, this desire isn’t exclusive to heterosexual people – trans and queer people can have this fetish as well. However, it does carry the highest risk of impregnation.
The Role of Fright in Pleasure
If you’re wondering why the idea of risk appeals to you, it all boils down to the feeling of fright, and there’s absoltely a sense of danger with unprotected sex and the potential of having a child. According to neuroscientists from MIT, fear and pleasure are more closely related than you’d think. The adrenaline is released, and as a result, can cause a sexual response.
That said, for many people, the thrill of this kink is all in the fantasy aspect. They don’t want to get someone pregnant in real life, they just want to simulate that risk factor.
How to Safely Act on a Breeding Fetish
The safest way to exercise a breeder fetish responsibly is to embrace the idea of fantasy and roleplay. To do this, fully immerse yourself into your imagination during a scene while using contraception. You can also watch breeding porn or read erotic fiction on the topic, or integrate it into regular sex acts with dirty talk phrases like “put a baby in me.”
If both people have had full STI checks and the person with the vulva is on oral contraceptives, i.e., birth control, it’s possible to engage in a more realistic version where bodily fluids are exchanged.
If both partners consent to the risk of getting pregnant and want to proceed without any form of protection, this is possible. However, we don’t recommend it, and according to Planned Parenthood, “pulling out” only works 78% of the time.
If getting regularly tested, you can use non-visible methods like pills, IUDs, patches, or implants to prevent pregnancy.
Instead, use your imagination and talk about the breed kink during sexual acts as a form of role-play or safely enact scenes. This is a fetish that can come with some serious risks when you take it beyond role play, like birthing and caring for a child or dealing with an STI.
Consent is Key
As with any sex act, enthusiastic consent is essential. This fetish is not an excuse to not have safe sex or use contraceptives. We suggest having multiple conversations about this fetish before (safely) acting out any scenes and always negotiating what the scenes will include beforehand.
Pregnancy Fetish vs. Creampie Fetish vs. Breeding Fetish
- Pregnancy fetish: attraction to a pregnant person (or how a woman’s body changes during pregnancy).
- Breeding fetish: attraction to the moment of conception.
- Creampie kink: attraction to the feel and look of ejaculation.
Sex Toys to Help with a Mating Fetish
There are lubes that resemble cum with a white, creamy texture that can help you fulfill a breeding kink. There are squirting dildos that “ejaculate” this type of lube, and this is perfect for same-sex couples or those using a harness, although all kinds of people can use it.
You can also insert an egg vibrator like LYLA 2 or Ben Wa Balls like the HULA Beads, which both come with remote controls. One partner can insert the pleasure product while the other controls speed and/or intensity for “egg implantation play.” This is also a great way to explore power dynamics.
Some people with this fetish like to bring in sci-fi elements into more niche fantasy play, like an alien kink. This is a common submissive fantasy where a person pretends that an alien or monster has abducted them to lay eggs in them and breed them.
Toys called ovipositors are designed specifically for this purpose – they look like dildos that have an alien look and deposit eggs into the vagina or anus. You can practice sex toy-based interpretation of the fetish during solo or partnered play.
The Bottom Line
There are many reasons that someone might have a breeder kink and plenty of ways to act it out without actually risking pregnancy. If you want to try out this kind of play with a partner rather than alone, prioritize communication, consent, and safety so everyone is on the same page.
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