A curiously solitary yet sociable creature, the lesser-spotted womanizer – known in some parts as the player – can often be seen prowling local hangouts most evenings and weekends.
Adaptable and alluring, womanizers are well versed in the art of seduction and often employ a disarming mixture of charm, wit and sophistication.
Although notoriously difficult to identify with just the naked eye, there are a few tell-tale signs that you are in the vicinity of a womanizer and should only proceed with caution.
Does He Plan Ahead?
How he wants and arranges to see you can give you a clue as to whether or not you’ve got a player in your midst.For example, if his plans with you are often made at the last minute, perhaps it seems like he’s just being spontaneous in trying to sweep you off your feet – which great, right? – but if he’s reluctant to organize anything with you more in the long-term, this could be a warning sign that maybe you’re not his first choice.
If you’re concerned this might be the case, we recommend you tread carefully.
The What, Where and When
In combination with the how, where and when he suggests meeting up with you and what the two of you do when you’re together is also worthy of closer inspection.
If he always wants to come to your place late at night but he never seems to be available at the weekend, ask yourself if he’s only with you for the sex, a move straight out of the Player’s Guide.
Alternatively, if he does take you out, does he like to mix up the time and destination, or does he keep them consistent? If he’s spontaneous in some ways but sticks to the tried and tested in others, that could just be the way he is but if you start to get suspicious, you’ve got to look out for number one.
The Silver Tongue
The number one golden rule for any player is to never leave a trail of destruction in your wake, as his reputation is key.
If he knows exactly the right thing to say at exactly the right time, maybe he’s had a little too much practice with the sweet-talking and you might want to keep an eye on it.
This requires tact because, believe it or not, there are some genuinely awesome guys out there who love to treat their woman like the princess she is. The last thing you want to do is scare away a Mr. Perfect with your paranoia.
Again this is a tough one as, depending on the stage you are at in your relationship, you don’t want to come across as a stalker before things have even got serious between the two of you.
You shouldn’t let what he got up to before he met you influence the here and now too much, but if you make friends across social media, his profile pages, friends, photos, comments and likes are a good insight into the kind of person he is.
Not all men are the same – even those who womanize – and as such they should be handled on a case-by-case basis. But should you find yourself one day confronted by a womanizer don’t stand still, resist the urge to punch it on the nose and don’t try and make yourself look bigger than you actually are as these things probably won’t work.
Walking away with your dignity intact however, now that’s an idea.