Fantastic Foreplay Tips You Haven’t Tried
One of the secrets to a more satisfying sex life is by mastering more enjoyable foreplay. And while we here at LELO treat foreplay as serious business (because it is our business after all – and business is good), having even more fun before you get frisky is a great way to connect with your partner; so take it from us, and you’ll be a foreplay pro in no time!
Why is Foreplay Important?
Here’s the thing; while a guy can take just 3 minutes to orgasm during sex, we ladies need a little more time and TLC to get us to climax. The orgasmic plateau – where climax is imminent – takes most women more than double the time it takes for men, so the added intimacy of a little foreplay can go a long way to your complete intimate enjoyment.
With that in mind, we’ll begin by looking at how we can extend foreplay to where you’re ready to enjoy a satisfying climax, and making him absolutely ravenous to get to the main event.
Foreplay Tip #1: Start Early
Send him a sultry sext message to start off his day thinking about what you’ll be doing to him at the end of it. After he’s arrived at work – please don’t encourage texting and driving – receiving a message from you saying something along the lines of ‘I can’t wait for you to come back tonight so I can rock your world!’ will have his mind racing until it’s time to punch out.
Having trouble thinking of the right words to send to your partner in sexual crime? Check out our list of tried and tested Best Example Sexts to get your creative juices flowing.
Foreplay Tip #2: Positive Reinforcement
When you’re in the middle of foreplay, use the power of communication and tell him what it is you like and how you enjoy being touched. For example, whisper that you ‘love being touched here’ and then guide his hand to wherever that may be for you. Knowing that he’s doing something right will make him want to keep doing it for the sole reason that he knows you like it – simple, right?
Foreplay Tip #3: Foreplay Flash Cards
Think of nine things you want him to do to you, and nine things he’ll want you to do to him and write them on index cards of different colors – pink for you, blue for him. Place them all face down on the bed, then take turns drawing cards and enacting what each one says, and this will add an air of tantalizing anticipation to the proceedings.
Foreplay Tip # 4: Hands-free Massage
Give him the greatest rub-down of his life… without using your hands. Stroke his entire body with your breasts and tummy, massage oil optional. Straddle him either from the front or back and drape your hair over his chest or back while both of you adopt a strict no-touch policy the entire time (which is probably easier said than done in his case, making a pair of handcuffs or pleasure ties a good item to keep in your toy box).
Foreplay Tip #5: Put On a Toy Show
Take out your favorite sex toy and have him stimulate your clitoris while he kisses you where you want to be kissed the most, or drive him absolutely wild by simply letting him watch you enjoy yourself with it. Incorporating a toy into your sex life will go a long, long way to bridging the gap between your orgasm and his, bringing you closer to coming together than ever before.
Katy Thorn is a post-grad writer with a passion for writing about sex, sexuality, and all things rated R. She received her degree in Women’s Studies with a focus in Intersectionality at the University of California, Berkeley (Go Bears!). She has a cat named Yoko, drinks too much black coffee, and hates writing bios.