Female Ejaculation: How To Squirt

Hopefully in this article about female ejaculation and squirting, we helped answer some important questions.

  • Do females ejaculate? Yes.
  • Is female ejaculation real? Yes.
  • What causes female ejaculation? A combination of physical and psychological factors.
  • Can I squirt? Maybe.

That’s what we’re looking at in this article: how to squirt, and how to make female ejaculation happen in someone else.

Ready? Let’s do this.

Female Ejaculation: How To Squirt

In a recent survey, 72% of women who said they don’t squirt regularly or have never squirted expressed an interest in trying it. So we talked to several bona fide authorities and asked them to share their advice on female ejaculation, squirting, G-spot orgasms and more.

Prepare Your Mind

Arousal Increases the Chances of Squirting

“Discover what turns you on physically, as well as mentally,” advises UK sex writer Cara Sutra. “Ideally the two will work in harmony to increase your arousal levels to heights you haven’t experienced before, giving you the best chance of squirting. You need to know your own body intimately, so research where everything is – your clitoris, your perineum, the parts of your vagina such as the G-spot and A-spot (anterior fornix).”

An orgasm is as much in the mind as it is in the body, and the more aroused you are, the easier it will be to achieve. Your body will tell you when it’s ready to try, listen to what it’s telling you.

Prepare Your Body

Learn Your G-Spot

US toy reviewer and writer Epiphora says, “Find your G-spot first! This is most easily done with a well-designed G-spot toy. Once you’ve experienced the unique “need to pee” sensation that comes from G-spot stimulation, you’ll know how to keep moving toward that sensation.”

“Talking of G-spot stimulation”, says Cara Sutra, “I recently rediscovered my love for this amazing sensation when I tried out the LELO INA Wave™. I’d thought the original LELO Ina was good, but the wave motion of this new version ignited the pleasure in my G-spot and I have had several G-spot orgasms with it since. It feels magical.”

You can also experiment with the SORAYA 2™, a rabbit vibe with 12 pleasure settings in every pattern imaginable—both arms at the same time, one at a time, and alternating.

Choose the Right Sex Toy

G-Spot Vibrators Are Perfect

While everyone has a different favorite and everyone’s anatomy is unique, we recommend the MONA Wave™ if you’re trying to squirt for the first time. That’s simply because INA Wave™ features a clitoral stimulator, which may be distracting while you’re trying to practice and learn the sensations.

Erotic author Ashleigh Lake offers these tips to assist squirting during sex:

“Make sure you’re well hydrated before having sex. Drink water, about half an hour before a session. The hydration will increase your ability to naturally produce bodily fluids. As well, a slightly fuller bladder will put pressure against your G-spot, making it far more sensitive to stimulation.”

Ashleigh continues, “you may also want to start experimenting with g-spot stimulation with a sex toy that’s already properly angled to hit your sweet spot. Alternately, you or a partner can use your fingers. My advice here would be to be more vigorous and intense with your efforts than you might otherwise be. Quite often, you really do need strong pressure against the g-spot to properly manipulate it, so put in the work and don’t let up. If you’re using fingers hooked against your g-spot or a toy, put some arm action into it. Keep your arm stiff and shake it back and forth while applying pressure. This isn’t the time to be soft and gentle. You’re building to a peak and when you get there, just give in and let go.”

Take Your Time To Squirt

And Enjoy The Journey

It’s about patience, and relaxation. It’s also about being comfortable if it doesn’t happen for you. Squirting orgasms are not the be all and end all, as Cara Sutra explains. While she has plenty of experiences making partners squirt, it hasn’t happened for her personally.

“Sadly… no squirting for me yet. I don’t know if I’m able to and it’s not for want of trying; the world knows how much I masturbate. It just goes to show that all women are different and you shouldn’t feel like there’s something wrong with you if you’re not able to squirt. It’s fun to discover new ways to stimulate yourself or enjoy foreplay with a partner, but try to avoid any mental or emotional pressure on yourself or your partner to squirt. All you can do is give it your best shot. As it were.”

Written by: Donna Turner

Donna is a Volonté contributor and freelancer who lives in San Francisco with her understanding husband and not-so-understanding teenage sons. Her work has been published in The Journal of Sexology and she is currently writing a book on love languages.


  1. U r right about being forceful I thought I was hurting her but just the opposite. Now she always squirts. Sometimes across the room if on a counter or makes a towel needed puddle that she can’t and doesn’t even know she is making

    When done she is mellow and content

  2. After a long time, with my 55 yr old lover,I had foreplay with her neck, face cheeks then boobs n armpits n then her stomach to her clitoris n thighs with my tongue n with intense speed, she left lots of liquids (is it squirting?)which I tasted but she was continuously squitting a lot and as there was little time left, even when her pussy was squirting I had to have penetrative sex which was not enjoyable to me at least. Earlier some time back when I was trying to have intercourse, she squirted a lot, spoiling my sex drive as her vagina became very wet n loose not conducive to penetrative sex generally desired by men. is it squirting(as she already had pee before sex) n to have healthy satisfying sex, how to stop it except wiping externally n for how much time it lasts n what to do next time when it happens?

    • I’m amazed that Karrai sees squirting as such a negative trait. I feel sorry for his lover. (Hopefully not any more). Do you see sex as purely for your own benefit? What to do next time? Enjoy it. You’re not the only one how’s entitled to satisfaction.

  3. So , can all girls squirt??

  4. Well, it seems almost impossible for me. Also my sex partner seems to be losing interest because I cannot. He has tried several times but can not produce it. Is this normal? Is this an important part of sex for men and if you can’t is it possible that it turns men off? And cause them to lose interest in you??

  5. Age or stature doesn’t matter. I’m a 40 year old, divorced, overweight guy with a 27 year old partner, and I get my partner to squirt all the time. With either my penis or my tongue. Really it’s about reading body language. I only knew my partner for 3 days before we had sex, made her squirt multiple times that night too. Now we are 4 months strong and a very happy couple. She claims that no man has done to her the things I have done and I’m flattered, but really all I did was read and understand her body language. That’s the real secret guys. Not a monster cock, or track star stamina, or even a gifted tongue. Notice your partner, truly study him/her (that’s a broad statement btw). Observe how they move when you touch them, feel the muscles twitch or relax or just full on tighten. Listen to your partner. Ask questions, “do you like this?” “Tell me how this makes you feel.” “Can you feel how much I want to please you?” I whisper these things softly into my partner’s ear. Gives her goose bumps Everytime. The more you are into your partner and less worried about yourself and your performance the easier it is to have powerful orgasms and really fulfilling sex.

    Don’t believe me…….try it.
    Body language is key!

  6. I am 48 years old and just experienced my first “squirting” episode ever and it happened without an orgasm. I didn’t even realize I had squirted until he said something about being so wet and when we were done my bed was soaked..I was naturally embarrassed bc I had no idea what happened and first thought HE peed lol..but nope we had some good pre-arousal sex and were both really into it, it was pretty awesome and he enjoyed every second of it so never be embarrassed ever.

    • That’s awesome! We’re always trying to convince people that sexuality is a journey that never ends, not just the crazy things we did in our twenties. And you’re absolutely right, squirting and orgasming don’t always happen simultaneously.

  7. I LOVE squirting!! Sometimes my body feans for it!! Like I have to have it!! I can only once in awhile get myself to squirt as much as iactually want to. Or maybe need to. There is one man that can ready my body and can make me squirt more then i can myself but it was to muvh snd i had to quit seeing him but i wish i would of kept in touch with him sometimes lol. But squirting is amazing. I wish i could squirt right now lol

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