Female Ejaculation: What Is Squirting?

Let’s be up front: this is an article about female ejaculation. An ejacularticle, if you will. As such, there is some graphic and explicit language ahead, and necessarily so, because the more openly we talk about it now, the less we’ll need to talk about it in the future. There is increasing interest around squirting at the moment, the discussion of it becoming broader even while the depiction of it becomes more heavily controlled.

But what is female ejaculation and why should it be a contentious issue?

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Pornhub, the online porn empire with a rather excellent statistical team and a knack for viral infographics, released data last year showing that ‘squirting’ was the 7th most searched term for their site in 2014, and that more women are looking for it than men. Since so many people are searching for it, you might think more people would know exactly what it is, but that doesn’t seem to be the case. In fact, even in the introduction of this article, we conflated ‘squirting’ and ‘female ejaculation’ as though they were the same entities. They’re not: female ejaculation, squirting, gushing and G-spot orgasm are often all used interchangeably to refer to the same thing, but they’re all different, and they all have unique characteristics. And yet, they’re all closely related to each other.

Is Female Ejaculation Real?

“Much of the confusion around female ejaculation and squirting is because they are two separate phenomena that are often discussed indistinguishably,” says Dr. Ian Kerner, renowned sexual therapist and author of She Comes First. “While it’s not correct to refer to squirting as a G-spot orgasm, it may be a simple way to think about the experience. Some women squirt voluntarily, some women do so involuntarily. Some women report pleasure, others do not.”

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Erotic author Ashleigh Lake agrees that there is confusion and complexity not only around the naming conventions of squirting, but the physiology too. “The Skene’s gland is anatomically near or part of the G-spot and is basically like the female version of the male prostate gland. Glands produce hormones, however during arousal they also produce fluid. In the female body this fluid can be suddenly released with vigorous or prolonged stimulation.”

‘Squirting’ is fast becoming the overarching name for all of the terms related to female ‘fluid emancipation’, as it’s euphemistically called in some older academic papers. The fact that there’s even debate about its existence – and further that there’s still debate about the existence of the G-spot too, is incredible. Most rationally minded and sexually active people will acknowledge the existence of both. So let’s just say it plainly: female ejaculation is real. But a question remains: why does female ejaculation exist? Does squirting serve a specific sexual function?

Why Do Women Squirt?

“The capacity [for women] to ejaculate is probably an evolutionary by-product of the selection of this trait in men,” says Dr. Kerner. “Male and female genitals are homologous (male genitals grow out, female grow in) and are undifferentiated for the first few months of pregnancy. Similar to the selection of nipples in women as a crucial function, and the male nipple being a by-product. This is not to disparage female sexual function, just to point out the difference.”

But this only raises more questions. If the female ejaculation is vestigial, why hasn’t evolution selected it out by now?

That’s probably because of the functions involved. It’s not like the Skene’s gland, popularly referred to as ‘the female prostate’ due to its similarity to the male prostate in form and function, is switched off when it’s not involved in ejaculation. Just like the male prostate, the Skene’s gland is constantly working, assisting in sexual function in any number of ways, from producing lubrication to keeping you clean and healthy. It’s a vital component for sexual health, and so is its function. By extension, if the physiology that produces female ejaculation is necessary, so must be female ejaculation itself. It may be an evolutionary by-product, but it’s certainly not vestigial.

Why Is Squirting Porn Banned?

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So if female ejaculation is literally the equal of – and equivalent to – male ejaculation, why is there such a difference in the way they’re perceived? For example, among many other sex acts and for reasons that were never identified, December 2014 saw the British government outlaw the depictions of female ejaculation in pornography. No such ban was put in place for male ejaculation. The implication is clear: men’s orgasms = great, women’s orgasms = obscene. And while that law was exclusive to the UK, it only takes common sense to see that there is a major disparity in the way we view male and female ejaculation around the world. Why the difference? Why one rule for male squirting and another for female?

“I think historically there’s been debate about female pleasure in general,” says respected sex toy reviewer and sex writer Epiphora. “Male pleasure is seen as standard, common, and important. Female pleasure is seen as amorphous, mysterious, and secondary.”

The UK’s leading sex toy reviewer and sex writer Cara Sutra agrees. “Traditionally, ejaculation was viewed entirely as being men’s domain. I don’t know of any historical references to female ejaculation.”

The History Of Squirting

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In fact, some historical references do exist, though you have to look really hard to find them. They date back 2000 years. Female ejaculation was apparently very well known in ancient Asia and mentioned in several Chinese Taoist texts, starting in the 4th century. The ancient Chinese concept of female ejaculation as independent of reproduction was supported by ancient Indian writings. First mentioned in a 7th century poem, female ejaculation and the G-spot are described in detail in most works of the Kāmaśāstra. In ancient Western writings it’s mentioned even earlier, around 300 B.C. by Aristotle and in the 2nd century by Galen. But then, mentions of it go almost completely silent until Dr. Graffenburg (who essentially put the ‘G’ in ‘G-spot’) in 1952. It’s like we discovered it, then forgot about it for 1500 years, and we’re only rediscovering it now.

“Attempting to control the way female ejaculation is viewed in porn (off-camera, implied etc) or banning it entirely just seems to be another way of relegating women to the bottom of the gender pile,” continues Cara Sutra. “If women are allowed (the fact that permission is necessary is an insult in itself) to ejaculate visually, audibly, pleasurably in porn then this challenges ejaculation as being just a ‘man thing’”.

In fact, Ashleigh Lake goes a step further, with the observation that in pornography “female ejaculation still tends to be portrayed as the result of a man’s efforts and sexual prowess…. unless the gender roles are equalized in a lesbian scene.”

In porn, then, it seems that women are very rarely allowed to “own” their own ejaculation. It’s either bound up in femdom fetishism, or it’s the result of a man’s prowess, or it’s so exaggerated that it bears little resemblance to the reality of the experience, or it’s illegal. (Though Ashleigh Lake does point out the good work being done by the producer Madison, otherwise known as Sam No.)

Those same standards that we criticize – those about the unrealistic standards of sex depicted in porn that allegedly corrupt men at a young age – are now true of squirting, and potentially equally damaging. Squirting in most porn is unrealistic, and could lead to unrealistic expectations amongst women. Worse still though is banning it, which could lead to a woman’s shame at her own climax.

Conclusion

The truth about female ejaculation, squirting, gushing and G-spot orgasm is, unfortunately, that it’s not something that comes easy, so to speak. It takes patience, a little education, some hard work, and – maybe – the anatomy too. In our recent survey of around 1000 participants, just 12% of respondents said they squirt regularly, but of those who don’t a massive 72% said they wanted to try.

Written by: Donna Turner

Donna Turner
Donna is a Volonté contributor and freelancer who lives in San Francisco with her understanding husband and not-so-understanding teenage sons. Her work frequently appears in the Journal of Sexology and Women’s Health Mag. She hosts intimacy seminars and is currently writing a book on love languages.

6 comments

  1. What I don’t get is, in this “age of science and technology” how can there STILL be this amount of debate and ignorance of the phenomenon?
    I VERY much agree that there are differences in types of squirting. Skene’s glands (“female prostate”) are often mentioned. My opinion is that there is also fluid from the Bartholin’s glands. (The male equivalent are the Cowper’s glands.) I had prostate cancer and don’t produce prostatic fluid, but I still ejaculate and my urologist says this is Cowper’s secretion. No reason women shouldn’t have this, too.
    As far as evolution goes, just like women vary GREATLY in their ability, frequency and intensity of orgasm, so too should we expect to find large variations in squirting. It would be interesting to know (read that: do research) on how many women CAN squirt, as opposed to how many regularly do.
    By the way, I find squirting incredibly sexy and a bog turn-on.

  2. This whole article is just “trust us you’re not peeing it’s OK!” re-assurance type marketing. There’s gushing. If it’s more than that, more enough to be called squirting, it’s pee. Who cares? Let’s just call “squirting” out for what it is – a golden shower for the boys.

  3. Well, once again, I respectfully disagree. I can drink, taste and smell that it’s NOT urine. I’m not into golden showers, and I still say, it needs research. Talia, if you had a squirting orgasm, you’d understand “who cares?”

  4. Whatever it is..its wonderful and a blessing..

  5. I have a theory…..we all produce the fluid, some believe that it’s purpose is to irrigate the vagina prior to the male ejaculation in order to give the sperm a pH neutral watery environment that facilitates swimming, however some of us produce a surplus amount, just like some people can produce excessive saliva or tears. That surplus “backs up” along the urethra the is squeezed out by the muscular contractions that accompany an orgasm.
    I have always been someone who got very wet during arousal, but after the birth of my first child my midwife got me to do my pelvic floor exercises and insisted I maintained them regularly. This ensured that I had very good pelvic muscle tone and that’s when I started to make the fluid spurt out.
    I am 60 now and have been using LELO Beads for a few years . I still get very wet (thanks to the wonder of HRT!) and I still ejaculate.

  6. I love to squirt! But I’m sure my husband loves me squirting more!! He absolutely loves it when he is drowned in juices and it actually stimulates him to a couple more erections !! I must say that when we decide to have Squirty sessions we do plan for longer and undisturbed time for sexy pleasure, and extra bedding protection unless we are outside….. I would say the most important factor of being able to squirt is by becoming incredibly horny, turned on and stimulated both physically and mentally… and gushing is so not peeing! My hubby surprised me during on of our lovemaking sessions with a lelo sona clitoral vibrator! OMG it was a flood of damming proportions!!! There was sooo much fluid we were both amazed ! and it was not urine! I do think that our glands can vary in size and amount of product produced just as penis and sperm vary in size , taste and amount.

    I must admit that I don’t squirt every time we make love….
    I am more likely to squirt with my partner than I am when hand mastabating although add sona and a g spot vibrator and its a definite squirt time every time.! I have squirted thru finger clit action but I am usually highly aroused when this happens , my husband loves it when I straddle his shoulders finger my clit and gush all over his face!!

    I really think that this awsome pleasurable act is in fact being suppressed as your articles states. I can’t believe that it has been banned from porn in the uk by the government….. it is really sad to think that woman is still being repressed even in this domain.

    Just a comment as this mysterious gushing fluid being urine/pee I don’t believe this is true…. urine smells tastes and feels very different to gushing fluid which smells and tastes sweet and is a slippery viscose texture…. and the fact that if I stop stimulating myself whilst gushing and then try to continue gushing it is not possible . As opposed to urinating which I can stop and start at will and cannot do when I am squirting. As matter of fact the first experience of squirting was some 3oyrs ago with ex husband, I flooded the bed during sex and we both passed it off as I had peed during the sex….. my husband and I now regularly love and enjoy our squirting sessions and he loves asking me to flood and helps me to attain his desire to be soaked in love juice…..

    Hopes this helps shed some more light on the fact that gushing /squirting / ejaculating what ever you call it is real and people are doing it and loving it! So pleased all you squirters out there tell us your stories!!

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