A Shopping Guide for Your Friend’s First Vibrator

“My friend has never owned a vibrator and I want to get them one as a gift. What are your recommendations?”

This one of my favorite questions I get in my workshops.

There is a veritable wealth of vibrators available. Vibes are becoming higher in quality as discerning consumers are demanding intimate products that compete with iPhones for sophistication and design. But which ones are suitable for that friend who’s new to this new world of toys? And which are actually worth their price tags?

Shopping Guide for Your Friend’s First Vibrator - Gift

I’ve spent nearly a decade teaching people about pleasure physiology and sex toys. I love helping people find toys that bring joy to their solo and partnered sex lives.

I like to recommend toys that are body-safe. This means that they are made from materials that are non-porous and not harmful to the body. Silicone, hard plastic, glass, and stainless steel are all examples of body-safe materials.

Sex Ed PSA: Many cheaper sex toys (like the jelly rubber kind) can harbor bacteria and contain phthalates (endocrine-disrupting chemicals that you probably don’t want near your genitals). Friends don’t let friends use crappy sex toys.

Here are five suggestions that will make sure your gift becomes the best thing in your friend’s nightstand.

 

The Jet Setter: The LELO MIA™ 2

LELO Mia

LELO’s sleek MIA™ 2 is the one I’d buy for the friend who travels a lot for work. It’s discreet but powerful, and the design doesn’t scream “SEX TOY” if the TSA gets curious. It’s also quiet so the person in the hotel room next door won’t hear it.

It’s USB-rechargeable so they can plug it right into their laptop or phone charger, regardless of the local voltage if they’re traveling internationally.

The Powerhouse: The LELO MONA™ 2

LELO MONA Wave G-spot vibrator

Whenever I’m at a conference with my sex toy reviewer friends, inevitably the MONA™ 2 will get brought up in conversation. It’s a fan-favorite among experts who have champagne tastes in sex toys.

The MONA™ 2 has got a great rumble-y vibration and settings from mild-to-strong. It can be used internally or externally, but is particularly nice if someone likes a toy that can be wedged between the labia to cover a bit of surface area. For fans of internal stimulation, this one is nice because it’s got a bit of girth to it as well.

The G Spotter: The LELO GIGI™ 2

GIGI 2 vibe

The GIGI™ 2 is a super versatile toy. It’s got a curved shape and is designed to find the G-spot, but its flat tip makes it equally fantastic for use on the clit. It’s great for use during intercourse too. The long handle makes it easy to hold onto during penis-in-vagina or penis-in-anus sex.

I particularly like recommending this toy for people who are new to G-spot stimulation. That anterior wall where the G-spot lives can be hard to reach with fingers alone, so a toy like the GIGI™ 2 can make it much easier to explore. But if they find out that they aren’t all that keen on G-spot stimulation, they still have an awesome toy to use on the clit. It’s still money well spent and that toy is going to get some great use for other purposes.

The Rabbit Upgrade: The LELO SORAYA™

Soraya Rabbit VibratorNearly every time I teach about sex toys, someone asks me about “The Rabbit.” And nearly every time, it’s because they saw that episode of Sex and the City where Charlotte didn’t leave her apartment for ages because of said sex toy.

Typically, I don’t recommend rabbit toys because they often don’t fit everyone’s genitals well. The distance between the clit and vagina varies, so one toy does not fit all. However, the SORAYA™  stands out from the pack. It has some versatility that allows it to work with a greater number of vulvas. The SORAYA™ ’s clitoral arm is flexible, so the user can move it a bit so it’s hitting the desired part of their clit (which you can’t do with most rabbit toys).

So if your friend has expressed interest in a rabbit-style vibe (and you’re feeling generous price-wise), this is one to consider.

The Audiophile: The LELO SIRI™ 2

SIRI 2

The SIRI™ 2 is a handheld, powerful vibe that has modes designed to mimic various types of musical beats. It even has a function that’s designed to match the environment so if your friend has some sexy music on in the background, the toy will match its rhythm.

Musical features aside, the SIRI™ 2 is ergonomic, easy to use, and has a lovely vibration quality. It’s also USB rechargeable and a bit more travel-friendly than the MONA™ 2 or GIGI™ 2 if your friend wants something a little smaller.

Conclusion

Whatever your choice, you’ll be sending a powerful message: pleasure is important and you’re a friend to whom they can turn to talk about sex. They are lucky to have you in their lives.

Written by: Kate McCombs

Kate McCombs, MPH is a sex & relationships educator who specializes in teaching strategies that increase empathy and enable connection. She has a Master's in Public Health with a focus on sexual health from the University of Melbourne and a Bachelor's in Anthropology from University of California at Berkeley. In her approach to healthy relationships, she combines the upstream problem-prevention approach of Public Health with Anthropology's exploration of cultural context. She's consulted for the World Health Organization and her expertise has been featured in The Huffington Post, Fortune, and Prevention Magazine. You can find out more about Kate at KateMcCombs.com

2 comments

  1. Great article!
    I’m so so happy that there are people like you that feel comfortable talking about this topic openly. Buying the right sex toy is not an easy task. Every type has it’s own features, material and size options, shape, texture, etc. Especially in the case of your first vibrator! Wish readers to find the right one! )

  2. Kate: Great article. Our daughter’s doctor (female) is recommending that our daughter, age 13, should be instructed about masturbation and other puberty-related issues. The doc has give us a number of pamphlets and some instructional websites in order for me to minimize my nervousness about trying to do this all myself. Our daughter is getting pretty mature, as most of her friends seem to be also, and everything I read about the sexuality of young ladies today indicates that she is probably about ready. My question is whether we should gift her a vibrator along with the doctor’s materials, and if so what model you recommend for a young lady. Thanks for your help for a rather shy soccer mom.

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