While aging can bring changes to our bodies, it also brings the confidence to know exactly what we want. Introducing sex toys into your routine is a wonderful way to prioritize your joy and vitality.
Here is how embracing modern bedroom essentials can revitalize your wellness, along with our top product recommendations for your journey. Keep reading to learn more about how the body changes sexually and what to consider when finding the right toy for you.
SONA 3 Cruise
SONA 3 Cruise is a clitoral vibrator that features twelve levels of intensity. Together, SENSONIC and CRUISE CONTROL TECHNOLOGY deliver consistent rhythm and power, creating steady pulses for strong, nonstop, lingering, multiple orgasms. The large surface area and velvety mouth may appeal to those who are confident of their yearnings. It is completely waterproof, allowing for experimentation in the privacy of your shower.
GIGI 3
GIGI 3 is a G-spot vibrator designed with a silky silicone exterior to deliver exquisite comfort with seamless control using the LELO app to access two additional hidden modes that deeply resonate to turn you on. Great for beginners who are not afraid to dig into untapped fetishes. Just sit back and let the equipment do its work.
SILA Cruise
SILA Cruise is a clitoral massager offering gentle titillation without making direct contact. Its wide mouth gravitates around and engages your entire erogenous area. Toggle between eight settings for a gradually building climax. This bestseller is wonderful for grown novices still hunting for new ways to frolic in foreplay, self-love, and intense release.
LELO DOT
LELO DOT is a clitoral vibrator with a flexible tip that dances in elliptical and oscillating patterns for precise stimulation of the erogenous region. It is amazing to enjoy alone or with a companion and benefits women who have trouble reaching climax.
The ORA 3 is an oral sex simulator. If cunnilingus is what turns on the waterworks, then this is the one for you. It moves and rotates like a human tongue but with more precision, featuring a myriad of combinations and patterns that rouse, throb, and shiver.
LELO SWITCH
LELO SWITCH is a dual-sided wand vibrator that provides external clitoral stimulation on one end and internal vibrations for your G-spot on the other. The double motors and sensorial ribs serve a thrilling buzz and sultry friction exactly where it needs to be. The Switch is an excellent pick for practiced seniors who might demand more turbo power to explode. Use the app for easy remote control.
TOR 3
The TOR 3 is a vibrating couples’ ring intended for mutual satisfaction. It has eight adjustable modes of escalating intensities maneuvered by using the LELO app. It is fantastic for those combating pain, stiffness, rigidity, or mobility problems but still enjoy carefree lovemaking, with or without a partner.
SORAYA Beads
SORAYA Beads are massagers designed for anal play. Its design features four cascading vibrating beads that gradually increase in size for maximum arousal. Utilizing Bow-Motion™ technology, inspired by the performance of violin players, parts work in harmony to create thrust-like movements. Soraya is wonderful for those with mobility hindrances who yearn for delectable A-spot stimulation.
ENIGMA Double Sonic
ENIGMA Double Sonic is a vibrator that uses waves to invigorate the A-spot, the clitoris, and the G-spot, thanks to its distinctive tip on an insertable tail. It features eight settings ranging from soft to powerful pulsations and stimulates a broader erogenous area. Unlock two exclusive modes by using the LELO app. This one might be best for older women who aren’t afraid of taking on uncharted, out-of-control lengths to get finished off.
Ben Wa Balls
Ben Wa balls (also known as Kegel balls or geisha balls) are weighted spheres, made of silicone, glass, or metal, and used to strengthen the pelvic floor via resistance training.
Typically coming in a set of two, the pair is inserted into the vaginal canal to tone and tighten the pubococcygeus and bulbocavernosus muscles that rhythmically contract during an orgasm. These are great for women who have weakened vaginal walls due to giving birth and/or aging. They can also be used non-sexually to help with incontinence.
How To Use Your Kegel balls
Always wash your hands and clean Ben Wa beads with warm water and antibacterial soap or a sex toy cleaner before you begin. Newbies should start training with larger, lighter balls that are easier for weaker muscles to grip.
Start by wearing them in shorter intervals (typically 10 to 15 minute intervals, but check the packaging first). Overtraining can be counterproductive, so stick to the recommended time that may vary by brand and product. As you get stronger, you can graduate to smaller, heavier beads for longer periods.
Use a generous amount of lubricant for insertion. We recommend Ben Wa balls with a retrieval cord (similar to a tampon string) to make removal more straightforward.
Lie down on your back, with your knees bent and legs spread apart. Alternatively, stand with one foot propped on the edge of a chair, bathtub, or stand. Slowly guide the balls into the vagina. They should sit comfortably just above your pelvic floor muscles (about 1 to 2 inches deep). Your body will naturally hold them in place. If there is a retrieval loop or string, make sure that it is left hanging outside of the body.
The workouts can be active or passive. The “squeeze and relax” technique involves contracting the pelvic floor as you would to purposely pause the stream of urine. Hold for about 5 seconds, and then relax the muscles to release. Repeat 10 to 15 times for a full set, or simply leave the balls inserted while you go about your day.
If you are using balls with a retrieval rope, relax your pelvic muscles and gently pull the string until they emerge. Always wash them thoroughly before returning them to their containers.
Other Forms of Pelvic Trainers
HULA Beads are remote-controlled Ben Wa balls that rotate inside the vagina to stimulate pelvic floor contraction.
The LELO Smart Bead is a vibrating egg that uses touch sensors to generate a personal pelvic strength training program. An intelligent system sets up a routine just for you, automatically adjusting and determining the proper duration and the rhythm of the exercises, over time, to prep the body for longer, stronger, and recurring orgasms.
Note: Consult a doctor or gynecologist if you have had pelvic pain, surgery, or a history of organ prolapse before using sex toys.
Sex and Aging
Changes in Aging Female Sexuality
When asked about their sex lives, women revealed that a loss of sexual interest peaked between the ages of 55 and 64. A plunge in well-being, poor esteem, and an absence of dependable partners are largely to blame. As estrogen levels drop due to menopause, the fitness of the vagina begins to suffer. Some women, in general, find it challenging to reach climax, and aging might further exacerbate the effort.
Other common age-related changes that can affect your sex life include chronic pain such as arthritis, weight gain, looser skin and muscles, incontinence (the loss of bladder or bowel control), dementia, depression, stroke, and side effects from medications and surgeries.
Menopause and Hormonal Deviations
Menopause is a biological process that indicates the perpetual cessation of a woman’s menstrual cycles. The ovaries gradually decrease the production of reproductive hormones, estrogen and progesterone. Eventually, the ovaries stop releasing eggs, and menstruation comes to an end.
Menopause occurs in three phases:
- Perimenopause is the transitional phase leading up to menopause. It usually begins in a woman’s 40s (though it can start earlier or later) and lasts anywhere from a few years to a decade. At this stage, estrogen levels fluctuate, leading to irregular menstruation.
- Menopause commences the day a female reaches 12 consecutive months without a period. The average age for this ranges between 45 and 55.
- Postmenopause encompasses all the years of a woman’s life after menopause.
Because estrogen plays a significant role in various corporal processes, fluctuating hormone levels can cause an array of conditions. Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM) describes physical changes to the vagina and urinary tract.
The vagina tends to shorten, narrow, and become more fragile. As the walls become thinner and less elastic, the tissue becomes inclined to tiny tears during sex, making the body more susceptible to UTIs and other infections. Dwindling estrogen can also decrease healthy bacteria in the microbiome.
Vasocongestion is the swelling of the blood vessels. During sexual arousal, this pushes fluids to the surface of the vagina for easier penetration. During menopause the amount of wetness necessary for comfortable penetration can dip drastically.
There is sometimes an onset of vasomotor symptoms (e.g. hot flashes, night sweats), insomnia and trouble sleeping, mood swings, irritability, anxiety, a loss of muscle mass and breast fullness, thinning hair, dry skin, and an increased risk of osteoporosis, which causes bones to grow brittle, frail, and prone to fractures.
Note: Every menopausal experience is different. There are numerous ways to manage the symptoms, ranging from lifestyle alterations to medical interventions like Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT).
Maintaining Sexual Intimacy in Older Adults
Active sex can promote relaxation, ease pain, and boost immunity (among other things). At the height of arousal, the body releases dopamine and oxytocin, “feel-good” chemicals that can promote bonding, trust, and compassion. Some research finds that amplified physical activity might even prompt neurogenesis, or the formation of new neurons in the brain.
For older women who are single, masturbation offers a great opportunity to reconnect with your body. Self-pleasure can be a powerful and intuitive way to understand your sexual journey and where it’s lead to in this moment.
Sex toys for seniors offer an opportunity to explore mutual desires that can strengthen connection and improve communication. Fourteen percent of women aged 80-90 and 34% of women aged 70-80 still masturbate or engage in sexual activity.
A Lot About Lube
Dyspareunia is recurring genital discomfort before, during, or after intercourse that may happen with age. A lack of arousal fluids results in vulval discomfort. Using high-quality lubricants or moisturizers can help improve foreplay and penetration by reducing friction.
There are three main kinds of lube:
- Water-based lubricant is a simple option to optimize slippage; great for sensitive skin and easy to wash off. Water-based lubes are safe to use with all sex toys, but aren’t recommended in the shower or bath, since they rinse away and they’re not very long-lasting.
- Silicone-based lubes have a uniquely silky feel. The large molecules do not absorb into the skin, resulting in a super smooth, good time that endures without requiring frequent reapplication. Remember that silicone lube is incompatible with silicone sex toys, because it breaks down and ruins the material.
- Oil-based lubricants from natural sources (e.g., coconut, olive, jojoba) are excellent for masturbation and massage. However, oils stain sheets and clothing and are hard to clean. Also, bear in mind that they cause latex to become porous, making condoms prone to ripping.
- Vaginal moisturizers can be used every few days to fight dryness. Add a liberal amount of LELO Personal Moisturizer onto your toy and flesh for an ultra-smooth ride.
Sex Toy Care
Maintenance and upkeep of intimate items are essential for protecting your health and preserving the quality of your toys. The fundamental rule is to clean all sex toys before and immediately after each use.
A Basic Cleaning Routine
- Always clean your hands thoroughly before and after playtime.
- Wash water-resistant or waterproof toys with warm water and an unscented, mild, antibacterial soap.
- If mobility concerns or hand pain make scrubbing difficult, a solution intended to be sprayed on, left to sit, then wiped or rinsed off, can be a convenient alternative.
- Never store a toy while it is damp. Moisture breeds bacteria and mold. Pat it dry with a fresh, lint-free towel, or let it completely air-dry in a well-ventilated space.
Know Your Material
100% medical-grade silicone is the gold standard for body-safe toys. It is non-porous, so it won’t harbor bacteria.
Glass and stainless steel are safe, non-porous, and easy to clean.
Jelly Rubber, TPR (Thermoplastic Rubber), and TPE (Thermoplastic Elastomer) are porous and bear microscopic holes that can trap bacteria, even after washing.
Lubricant Compatibility
- Water-based lubricants are universally safe to use with all toys.
- Never use silicone-based lube with a silicone toy. The chemical structures will break down the surface, turning it gummy and sticky.
- Do not use oils with silicone or rubber toys. They disintegrate the material and are difficult to wash off.
Proper Storage
Store sex toys in a cool, dry place away from extreme heat or direct sunlight, which can degrade or distort the materials over time. Use separate breathable cotton or microfiber bags for each of your toys.
Conclusion
As we age, changes in sex and desire are natural. The things that brought us to climax years ago, may not anymore. Explore and experiment to find what you enjoy now. New experiences don’t have to stop at any age, and sex in your 50s, 60s, and beyond can be the start of amazing new intimacy, whether solo or coupled.