With the popularity of online dating, the chances of you speaking to someone on the phone or hearing a voice note from them before actually meeting, is high.
And how about the growingly popular TV show, Love is Blind, in which contestants base their levels of attraction towards another using only their voice?
It’s true! Someone’s voice has the power to make one weak at the knees!
[insert quote by Jean de la Brueyer who said, “The sweetest of all sounds is that of the voice of the woman we love”.]
But, at the end of the day, we’re living in a superficial world. A world where sight is often considered more important when it comes to finding love and feeling attraction.
At the same time, there’s something entirely erotic about mystery that can stir up feelings of sexual attraction and excitement. Hearing someone’s voice—one which you find soothing or appealing—without having met them, can be a thrilling experience.
Alas, it’s been said that men tend to fall in love with their eyes and women with their ears. And the latter is oftentimes a better gauge in terms of compatibility and attraction, as it allows one to assess people’s intellectual abilities, values, personality traits and more. Does that mean that women are more intellectual? Perhaps (sorry fellas).
Further proving this point, a 1999 study by Nancy Etcoff, a clinical professor in psychology, found that attractive high school girls were 10 times more likely to get married as opposed to less attractive girls. This study, plainly put, reveals that boys and men are more attracted to appearance than intelligence (of course this study was based on heterosexual individuals).
Diving deeper into the subject of a sexy voice, let’s look at a quote from Renee Wade:
“I can hear an especially deep voice from another room without seeing the man, and instantly conclude that his behaviour would be more dominant than his male counterparts with higher voices. I would also assume that he’s particularly healthy and attractive.”
Indeed, a person’s voice—the way in which it sounds and the things that are said—can give us a huge amount of insight. But what’s the deal with the pitch of someone’s voice? Well, a study by Madeleine Fugère looked at this very topic and found that women were more attracted to men with lower-pitched voices. This is possibly due to the fact that it’s associated with higher levels of testosterone.
On the other hand, Fugère found that men in her study preferred women with higher-pitched voices, as it indicated signs of youth and thinness.
Interestingly, a 2010 study by Susan Hughes and colleagues found that women were more prone to speaking in a higher-pitched voice when they were interacting with an attractive stranger, yet spoke in a lower-pitched voice when speaking with their romantic partner.
The study showed that men too are guilty of this behaviour, as when they spoke to their romantic partner, they used a higher-pitched voice.
With all of this information, it’s fair to say that we could possibly gauge whether someone is attracted to us using only the pitch of their voice, as it correlates to, in part, sexual desire.
Romance and flirting aside, let’s talk about sex!
In a different study, conducted by Gallup and Frederick in 2010, it was found that individuals with a sexy voice were more likely to lose their virginity earlier than those without a sexy voice, and they were shown to have more sexual partners too.
And while another study suggested that those with a sexy voice were often more physically attractive and had better personalities, it also showed that men and women with a sexy voice tended to be more unfaithful than those with a less-sexy voice.
To elaborate, this study showed that, when individuals rated others solely on the pitch of their voice, they were able to identify those who had a history of cheating. “The human voice may be of value as a cheater detection tool and very thin slices of vocal information are all that is needed to make certain assessments about others,” said Susan Hughes and Marissa Harrison, the leaders of the study.
And now, we thought we’d lighten the mood and give you a few tips on how to have a sexy or sexier voice. This is merely for entertainment purposes, so enjoy it as a fun and playful addition or practice them as you please.
11 Ways to Have a Sexy Voice
- Record your voice then listen to it
- Know the flaws in your voice and work on them, such as seeing a speech therapist
- Don’t copy someone else’s voice, as it wouldn’t sound natural
- Using little air volume results in whispery mousy tones
- Using more air volume results in seductive tones
- Use vocal depth by speaking from your diaphragm and using the power of your lungs
- Have a well-paced talking speed
- Take note of your pronunciation
- Swallow and clear your throat before talking
- Open your mouth and jaw when talking
Let’s conclude by saying that you’re already perfect the way that you are, and there’s no need to go ahead with drastic tactics in order to change your voice to be” more attractive”.
But, if you’d like to give these tips a go, by all means, enjoy!