For a long time, smoking was glamourized as something sexy. Think grainy boudoir images with pouty red lips puffing away on a cigarette. If that turns you on, you may have what’s called a “smoking fetish”, otherwise known as “capnolagnia”.
While smoking has decreased in popularity in recent years thanks to health education, many people still find it incredibly arousing. This has led people to explore this arousal through watching smoking porn, reading smoking erotica, and even – smoking during sex.
Let’s dive into what exactly a smoking fetish is and how you can (safely) explore it.
Smoking Fetish 101
Before we can dive into the details of the what and why of smoking fetishes, we need to put a big disclaimer here – smoking, especially cigarettes, can be incredibly harmful to your lungs, heart, and overall health. This is not to shame anyone with a smoking fetish, but it is important to know the risks associated with it.
People with a smoking fetish may be into watching other people smoke, have recurring sexual fantasies about watching people smoke, or have sexual urges around smoking.
Watching people smoke can also turn people with smoking fetishes on because it triggers some sort of oral fixation, versus having to do with the act of smoking itself. Some believe that culturally this fetish came from eroticized images of women smoking in noir-era films.
The psychology of human sexuality is incredibly complex. Why do people have smoking fetishes?
Some people are turned on by the smell. Others like the sultriness of the smoke itself. For some the visual of watching someone smoke gets their engines revved. For a lot of people with a smoking fetish, it seems to be the thrill of it being something elicit and bad, much like people who are into exhibitionism.
There also may be a big piece of domination when it comes to smoking fetishes. There is the visual of someone being treated like a human ashtray, as some people who engage in this fetish blow smoke in their partners’ faces and/or put cigarettes out on their bodies (warning: this is not safe). This brings in elements of humiliation, which are common in the BDSM world.
A smoking fetish may also come down to addiction. If you or your partner is addicted to nicotine or smoking then it would make sense that that addiction would ripple out into your sex life.
My Partner has a Smoking Fetish—Now What?
If your partner has a smoking fetish and wants to explore it with you, it’s important to take note of whether or not this is something you’re actually comfortable with or if you just want to make them happy. This is one of those kinks where there’s not much room for compromise because if it’s a no for you, it’s likely because you don’t want to smoke or to be around someone who is smoking.
If you don’t want to explore a smoking fetish with your partner, you may be able to figure out what’s underneath the fetish and how you can help play with those themes – minus the smoke. This could be what we discussed in the previous section; like if they just get turned on by watching someone smoke or if they want to explore more elicit activities in your sex life.
Keep in mind that while it’s fine for your partner to communicate their fetishes and what they’re into, it’s not okay for them to pressure you to participate in any sexual act that you don’t want to – especially one that can be so damaging to your health and potentially lead to addiction.
Ultimately, the only way to safely explore a smoking fetish is through erotica and porn – keep reading to learn more.
How To Explore a Smoking Fetish
While we won’t promote smoking here, there is a way to explore a smoking fetish that is relatively harmless – through sexy content. Watching smoking porn allows you to witness and explore a smoking fetish without actually having to smoke or be around smoke.
Another option is smoking erotica, which can be written or audio erotica, both of which you can find online. Exploring smoking porn and erotica can help ignite the senses and parts of you that are turned on by the act – minus the lung damage.
If you do want to explore smoking sex there are some precautionary measures to keep in mind. One is, of course, the potential damage that tobacco and nicotine can cause. While any kind of smoking can cause damage, if you’re not addicted to nicotine, you can also try smoking herbal cigarettes during foreplay or sex. These are often made from herbs like chamomile, lemongrass, and rose to give you the experience of smoking without the tobacco. Note that while less addictive than tobacco, herbal cigarettes still emit carcinogens and toxins.
Another thing to be mindful of is that if you’re exploring a smoking fetish, you’re quite literally playing with fire. Fire and bare skin are not the best combination, so please be incredibly careful to avoid accidental burns and flying ashes. Be sure to have an ashtray readily available.
Whatever the kink or fetish, it’s important to understand the inherent risks that come along with it. Reflect on what desires are underneath the fetish and how you can safely explore them.
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