The Female Gaze: The Thrill of Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM)
The notion itself: Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM), doesn’t exactly seem like anything special, does it?
Picture a Sunday morning where a female partner is in her pyjamas and her male partner is naked. They’re just hanging out, chatting, making breakfast, or maybe he’s just about to hop into the shower.
Now this would be quite ordinary if that’s what Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM) actually meant! But in the BDSM community, that’s not really what it is at all…
What is Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM)?
In the realm of BDSM, more specifically FemDom (female domination), CFNM is when a dominant woman is in the company of a submissive male who isn’t wearing clothes. In this way the male’s vulnerability and submission is emphasised, and the female’s control is heightened.
The fun doesn’t just stop there though…
During this kind of scene, the female has been given the consent of the naked male to perform all kinds of erotic acts on them, which is usually that of humiliation, teasing, torture, and bondage.
Why is Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM) Appealing?
Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM) is essentially about the power of the female gaze, in this case: sexual power. In this way the male is the object, which goes against mainstream society, especially porn.
The majority of porn videos have been created with the male gaze in mind. And so, when the roles are reversed, it gives females a sense of power and control. This alone can be an erotic thought, almost to the point of it being a taboo.
CFNM can also merely be a form of porn and/or entertainment for women. It’s a role reversal whereby the female is sexually liberated while the men are seen as sex objects.
For males, Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM) can be highly appealing for a number of different reasons. They may have an exhibitionism kink, which is then explored during this kind of play. For many men, exposing themselves in front of a woman can be very arousing.
Additionally, a male may actively seek a female dominant to submit to: receiving humiliation, torture, rewards, punishment, and more.
Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM), Have You Experienced it?
Quite surprisingly, you may have experienced Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM) yourself, in the case of going to a male strip club. In this scenario, the women are fully clothed while the men get naked and become the object of admiration.
And so, many women, either as a night out or for a bachelorette party, make their way to a male strip club or enjoy the scenes of a male stripper as a means to be entertained and have a laugh.
How to Practice Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM) at Home
So you want to give CFNM a go! You needn’t be in the BDSM community, nor practice any other kind of non-vanilla sexual acts, to enjoy it. It can be experienced at whatever level you and your partner are comfortable with. You could even enjoy it as a form of role play, if that’s what you’re into.
With that, here are some ways you can practice CFNM…
- Have the female wear a high-powered suit or uniform of someone in authority (police uniform, for example), which would further fuel the power exchange
- Have the male wear a chastity belt, and nothing else, for the female’s sexual pleasure and control
- Have the male wear the female’s underwear (partial nudity still counts) as a form of humiliation
- Have the male serve the female in any capacity., cleaner, butler, a piece of human furniture, the giver of sexual pleasure
- Have the male worship the female’s feet
So, while some of these examples are more intense than others, there’s surely something spicy in the list for you to give Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM) a go? If you’re intrigued, we say go for it!
Just remember that consent is always necessary, before, during, and after, and aftercare is also important to make sure that both partners feel appreciated, satisfied, and happy, while having a good sense of overall well-being.
Helena is a sex-positive freelance copywriter in her early 30’s from Cape Town, South Africa. She’s travelled and lived in various countries in Asia and Europe for almost a decade, and continues to live her dream — traveling the world independently as a copywriter. Having written for various companies and magazines within the industry, she has extensive knowledge in the field of sexual health, the escort industry, and sex toy marketing.