Spanking for pleasure is a common kink most often used both during foreplay and sex. There are many perspectives and scientific reasons why erotic spanking are arousing.
Sexuality is a complex labyrinth with sometimes complex answers. Just because you were spanked in childhood, for example, it doesn’t mean you enjoy it as an adult. And the reverse is true; you could have a wonderful relationship with your parents and never come close to a spanking as a child, and still get aroused when your partner spanks you during sex.
Is spanking a kink, and why do women in particular like to be spanked? Here’s what you should know.
Is Dopamine Released During Erotic Spanking?
In short, there is no solid evidence to suggest a direct correlation, but dopamine is released during arousal—so if you find spanking arousing, then yes.
A fine line exists between the pain and pleasure sensations in the human body; sometimes we find it difficult to identify if something hurts or feels great, or perhaps both simultaneously.
A study in The Journal of the International Association for the Study of Pain finds that masochists interpret decreased pain in a physical sexual context when compared to strictly sexual images. Other research suggests that pain and pleasure have overlapping neurological pathways.
Increased Blood Flow & Arousal
One reason why spanking can be arousing is because of the bums close proximity to sensitive genitalia. During both sex and foreplay, blood courses through these areas and a sharp slap increases blood flow and, as a result, arousal.
This, however, can not be said for the cheeks on the face; face slapping is very different from erotic spanking, and while LELO is never short of ideas to spice things up in the bedroom, we encourage you to keep it consensual, respectful, and generally awesome.
Spanking as a Form of Power Play
Spanking is inherently a form of BDSM power play—the person being spanked is in a submissive position, allowing the spanker to dominate them. Even if a person doesn’t inherently enjoy pain, they may be turned on by the submissiveness of the act and everything it implies.
Whether you’re giving over control to your daddy-dom or being playfully punished as part of a schoolgirl role-play, spanking is a fun tool to lean into your fantasies. Incorporating implements such as whips and paddles can up the ante, but make sure you try everything out first and that you’re comfortable with the pain level.
As always with any kind of BDSM play, it’s important to establish clear boundaries and a safe word.
Different Spanking Positions
Have a spanking kink? Or just curious about integrating some new things in the bedroom? Here are some different positions to get you started.
Classic Over-the-Knee (OTK)
Over-the-knee is a classic spanking position for good reason. There are plenty of ways to play this scene out; you can have your man sit on a chair or the bed, for example, and bend you over his lap like the naughty girl you are.
Flat On Your Stomach
Lie on your front on a comfortable bed. You can prop your hips up with a pillow (a wedge-shaped pillow works best) to expose your behind for easy access (and a more seductive angle). If sensory deprivation is a big turn-on, scatter some additional pillows around you so your partner can push your head into it.
Standing Bent-Over
This is another classic position often pictured in movies. Picture yourself bent over the desk or bed with your partner at your side. (Perhaps you’re a naughty secretary who has been stealing office funds, or a schoolgirl who needs to be disciplined!).
Doggy Style
This is a fun way to incorporate some spanking when you’re in the middle of sex and tumbling around the sheets all sweaty. If you’re already on your hands and knees and doing it doggy style, your partner is in the ideal position to deliver a few playful (or serious! Depends on what you like!) swats.
Against a Wall
Here’s another more impromptu position for spanking when you’re in the middle of passionate lovemaking. Picture this: Your partner has you against the wall, back to him. He spanks you, pulling your hair and growling in your ear.
Conclusion
Spanking has been depicted as a form of erotic pleasure since the times of the Romans. Why do girls like being spanked? Like all things sexual, there are no clear answers, but one thing is obvious—something about the combination of pleasure, dominance, and pain gets some of our engines revving.
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