Seducing a man is about more than showing tits and ass. Seduction in many ways is a form of self-expression. What is it about you that makes you feel the most attractive? When you find a man attractive, this is what you put out into the universe.
If he finds that part of you attractive too, then the two of you can partake in a playful, confident game. Endorphins rise, emotions heat up, and chemistry sizzles. Here’s how to seduce a man in different situations.
How To Seduce A Man Over Text
Activate secure attachment
Picture this: You’re on a work trip, and the person you’re into texts you, “Can’t wait to hold you tonight.” Immediately, your heart’s all aflutter as you imagine that exact scenario.
Intimate messages like this one helps to show your confidence in their attraction to you, cultivating a sense of secure attachment, even when you’re not physically there. Many studies have shown how secure attachment can lead to more fulfilling relationships.
Mentally prime him
Psychological priming is a domino effect where exposure to one stimulus impacts how the person responds to a subsequent stimulus. Prime your crush by instilling a good time in his head, preferably before you’re planning to see each other.
For example, if you’re getting ready for a first date, text something like “Get ready for a night to remember.” The subtle suggestion of a good time will put intimate ideas in his head.
Send naughty texts
Surprise your man with a sexy, dirty text message when he’s in the middle of some mundane task like a work meeting. Anticipation is the key to good sex, so get his imagination revving. Here are some examples of naughty texts to make him hard:
- Thinking about xxx we did last night… making me wet
- Had a very naughty dream… guess what happened
- What’s your dirtiest fantasy?
- Doing laundry right now but I’d rather be doing you
- Just got a new sex toy, let’s try it out
How To Seduce A Man At A Bar
Eye contact, eye contact
It’s been said a million times, because it’s true – eye contact is key to initial attraction. Learn how to use the power of eye contact to get any guy in the room to constantly sneak glances at you like you’re a magnet. Glance at him and let your eyes linger, but don’t stare – just look long enough to let him know you’re interested. This will pique his attention and let him know to prepare the next move.
Look approachable
Sitting in the corner facing the wall is not going to get anyone’s attention. Be active and show him you’re interested; glance in his direction, maybe wave if you’re close to each other, and smile. You want to look like you’re open to being approached. Try glancing at him now and then, and gently tucking your hair behind your ear or running your fingers down your neck.
Wear what makes you feel the sexiest
Though half of seduction is mental, the other half is cultivated through physical attraction. This doesn’t mean changing your style or wearing the skimpiest clothes. Rather, you should dress in a way that flatters your body type and makes you feel like the most comfortable, confident, and sexy version of yourself.
Looking sexy is about looking at ease with your own body and comfortable in your own skin. If you feel confident in your favorite pair of jeans or that gorgeous new dress, then rock it!
How To Seduce A Man Through Kissing
Touch unexpected erogenous zones
Our bodies are filled with erogenous zones other than the obvious ones. Touching him behind the ears, tracing your fingers on his neck or collarbone, leaving a trail of little kisses on his temple… all these areas are packed with nerve endings, and lingering touches will stimulate his body and his passion.
Lean in for a kiss, then pull away for a few seconds
Switching up the tempo builds anticipation and forces him to look at you. This allows both of you to bask in each other’s energy, creating playful tension that will make you want to devour each other.
Be playful
Playfulness breeds intimacy. Kissing doesn’t have to be such a serious act. Smiling, laughing, and doing silly things like tickling each other with small kisses, biting his lip, or blowing raspberries on his neck are intrinsically sexy as laughter helps you let down your physical guard around each other.
What To Avoid
Competing against others
Remember: You’re not competing against anybody to be the hottest girl in the room. If he’s attracted to you, it should be because you are confident in the way that you are. You’re not competing against other women in the room; you’re walking in there like you’re the prize and loving every part of yourself. Confidence is the sexiest trait anyone can have.
Talking a big game
Some women think they have to “talk a big game” and act like someone they’re not in order to turn men on. They might send text messages or talk about things they think the man might like, but that they have no intention of doing. If you’re not into threesomes or anal, then don’t promise those things.
If he brings up BDSM but you don’t really want to try it, then don’t act like you will. Following through with what you say will make him even more horny the next time you guys talk about sex, because he’ll know you mean it.
Conclusion
Whether you have a crush on a hot neighbor and are looking to get his attention, or you just bought a new sex toy and you’re itching to try it out with your partner, the key to seduction is always to be confident in yourself. Check out our blog for more sexy tips.
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