Female-Only Threesomes: Have Your Cake and Eat it!

Having a threesome is sometimes a hit-or-a-miss. For some, it has the capacity to intensify the pleasure, while for others… well, let’s just say, if they wanted to disappoint two people at the same time they could have just had dinner with their parents.

What’s equally as tricky is the fact that the way in which a threesome is enjoyed varies from person to person and group to group. It’s not only about an individual’s experience, but also the chemistry between all three of the participants. 

For that reason, we can’t guarantee you’ll have the best time of your life. But, with the right research, tips, and tricks, you could be well on your way to having a very erotic and successful threesome.

Today, we’re going to be lending a helping hand to those who are interested in a FFF threesome, aka three women engaging in sexual acts with each other at the same time.

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How to Prepare for a FFF Threesome 

As much as we love the idea of sexual spontaneity, planning a FFF threesome will probably work in your favour. That’s because, well, unless you’re in a throuple and or have enjoyed this kind of experience before with the same two women, things may not go according to plan.

The good news is, there are a few extra sexy bits and pieces you can prepare to enhance the FFF threesome experience.

Lube 

As women, we have double the amount of genital orifices as our male counterparts. And while some women have absolutely no problem when it comes to getting wet, having an adequate amount of lube on-hand is just smart thinking.

Not only that, but certain kinds of lube can actually enhance arousal and sexual pleasure, while keeping the vagina soft. Natural oil-based lube, for example, can be great for genital massages. 

If you’re planning on using sex toys however, the best option is to stick with a water-based lube, especially if those sex toys are made of silicone

Speaking of which… 

Sex toys

One of the great things about a FFF threesome is the ability to use all kinds of pleasurable sex toys. And if there is a certain sex toy that you know gets you hot and heavy, you should definitely bring it along (the same goes for your girlfriends). 

This is because many women find it harder to climax than men, and having something with you that’ll bring about more comfort and that is bound to get you off, will make all the difference.

On the flipside, talking with all of the participants before bringing a bag of sexy toys is imperative. By doing so, you can find out what kind of stimulation they enjoy, and where they find the most pleasure. This can make the experience a heck of a lot better and dictate which toys may be suitable for your FFF threesome.

Tip: make sure that whatever toys you bring to your threesome are clean before use. And if you want to be extra safe, you could use a barrier during play time. By putting a condom on a strap-on beforehand and changing it for each use, for example, you can use this toy on all partners safely.

‘The Talk’

As mentioned, a little pre FFF threesome brainstorming session can actually go a long way. This chat will differ depending on if you’re already in a couple who will be inviting a ‘unicorn’ to join in (unicorn: the third person to join a couple’s threesome), you’re all friends, or you are all strangers.

For those in a couple, creating a few ground rules and boundaries is an excellent way in which to reduce any jealousy, complications, or post-threesome blues. Together, you can decide what is off limits and what is OK for your unicorn, as well as yourselves.

You may find that kissing is more intimate within your relationship, and thus decide that kissing on the mouth is only for you and your partner, for example.

You can also discuss whether one or both of you would be interested in watching (and engaging in solo fun). For some however, seeing their partner with another person may spark a lot of rejection and or jealousy, so talking about these things beforehand will definitely be beneficial for all involved.

After Your FFF Threesome

Once you’ve enjoyed the experience of three beautiful women in passion, there is no magical genie that will whisk the second or third person away without any awkwardness. Coming up with a game plan beforehand may also be a great idea for those who feel anxious about what to do when the FFF threesome is over.

For couples, do you invite the unicorn to sleep over? Or do you plan an exit strategy before your bout of pleasure? Answering these questions is a personal decision, and will differ from person to person, couple to couple, and triad to triad. 

For couples, it may be a great idea to do something special afterwards, just the two of you, in order to reinforce your special bond and love/lust for each other.

For all three, going out for a drink or simply having a friendly chat or hangout afterwards is a great way to reinforce positive mutual feelings for one another. It’s also a way for all three women not to feel objectified and to realize that they’re actually human beings and not merely one person in a sexual experience. 

The most important thing however is to make sure that all women feel comfortable and included after the event, and that no one feels used or rejected afterwards. 

FFF Threesomes: What Goes Where?

Whether you do plan your FFF threesome or not, some may want to know the logistics, such as… what goes where! 

Well, there’s no blueprint for this kind of sexual activity, and there’s no right or wrong way to do it. It’s merely a question of what feels good and what’s comfortable for all.

Essentially however, you’re looking at:

  • One woman focusing on two women
  • Two women focusing on one woman
  • Two women engaging while the other watches
  • All three women engaging and seeing what works

The thing is, without planning, you may find that one participant may feel left out at some point. For that reason, the golden rule is to be aware of all participants at all times. 

But if one woman does tend to appear a bit aloof or left out, it’s absolutely OK to verbalise it in an inviting and comfortable manner. For example: “Come closer, I want to kiss you,” or “Can I watch you going down on xx (insert woman’s name here)?”. 

If you do decide to talk during your FFF threesome, try to be specific in such a way that it doesn’t segregate one partner. For example, “Why don’t you touch us” creates an ‘us vs. them’ scenario, which could cause further alienation.

If you find yourself being the one less involved, try not to take it personally – especially if the other two are already in a relationship. You were invited into the FFF threesome for a reason.

How to Make a FFF Threesome Even Better than Expected… 

There are a few ways you could heighten the FFF threesome experience. That is:

Sleeping Together: If there’s a chance for each participant to sleep with each person in the threesome individually, it will give everyone the opportunity to get to know each other’s bodies on a more personal level. This may also minimize some awkwardness for those who are nervous.

Dive Right In: If you’re someone who tends to get inside their own head, standing around in anticipation could make things appear awkward and tense. If all participants are on-board, get naked and dive right in.

Watching: If you’ve got a voyeuristic streak in you, watching two women together can be a massive turn-on. Find a comfortable place, grab your best sex toy if you fancy, and enjoy a bit of solo play whilst in the midst of pure erotica.

Listen and Ask: When all participants feel comfortable in a FFF threesome, it’s a lot easier to listen and ask. If someone desires something, listen. Or perhaps one participant wants a breather, respect is of utmost importance. At the same time, feeling free to ask for what you want is exceptionally powerful, and can really enhance the entire experience.

With that, we wholeheartedly wish you tons of sexy fun during your FFF threesome! We simply love the idea of women having their cake and eating it too… bon appétit!

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Written by: Helena Lorimer

Helena Lorimer
Helena is a sex-positive freelance copywriter in her early 30’s from Cape Town, South Africa. She’s travelled and lived in various countries in Asia and Europe for almost a decade, and continues to live her dream — traveling the world independently as a copywriter. Having written for various companies and magazines within the industry, she has extensive knowledge in the field of sexual health, the escort industry, and sex toy marketing.

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