A Lil’ Bit of TLC: What is Sensual Domination?
Forget everything you may believe about domination and BDSM in the context of humiliation, discipline and pain. Sensual domination is nothing of the sort.
What it is however, is something that’s so erotically delightful that pleasure is amplified for both the dominant and the submissive.
What is Sensual Domination?
Sensual domination is a kind of power dynamic in the realm of BDSM, yes, but with a twist. It’s not about humiliation or punishment, but rather praise and reward. And in this power play, the art of giving and receiving praise and reward is entirely erotic and teasingly sexual.
Sensual domination is to enhance and entice all of the senses. In this way, it’s a milder or softer kind of dominance. In fact, many have engaged in a bit of sensual domination without even knowing it…
Take using blindfolds, for example—when one partner sensually covers their lover’s eyes and takes the reign in the bedroom. This could be considered a light form of sensual domination. In short, sensual domination is all about pleasure.
And even though it may sound a lot easier to practice than the more traditional kind, this isn’t always so.
Practicing Sensual Domination
For dominants, it may involve more skill to practice sensual domination as opposed to the traditional kind of dominance. This is because it requires more patience and understanding of their submissive’s turn-ons, as well as their state of mind.
For that reason, communication before, during, and after a scene is important, and a strong sense of trust and respect. You may also want to introduce a safeword into your scene, just to make sure that everyone is always comfortable.
Additionally, aftercare is also just as important after a scene, which will only further solidify the respect for one another, allowing both parties to continue to feel safe and seen.
Examples of Sensual Domination
There are so many different ways you can either try sensual domination, or push your scenes into further bliss. Whichever you choose, try to focus not only on the body, but also the mind.
Sensual Domination Ideas for Beginners
- Easy-to-Use Restraints
- Ice Cubes
- Massage Candles
- Role Play Outfits
- Sex toys
- Affirmative Language
With these ideas you could simply tease your partner using a feather or fur, ice cubes, massage oils or candles, or sex toys when they’re deserving of a reward and praise. Coupled with this, or without, you can use words of affirmation. Things such as, “You’ve been such a good boy/girl. You deserve to be rewarded and treated”.
Sensual Domination Ideas for Experienced Players
For a more intense kind of sensual domination, you could go for a role play that’s alluring for both you and your partner. For some, the daddy/daughter and mommy/son roleplay is appealing, as it puts one person in a caring and nurturing role.
Then, there are more sexually teasing ways to toy with sensual domination. Things such as having a dominant get so close to their submissive, so that they can smell how turned on they are and feel the heat of their body. Then having the dom bring their sub’s head closer to their sweet spots, nestling it in such a way that both partners experience a sexual build-up. After this, a dom can remove their clothing and continue to lead their sub into performing sexual acts.
Or, if you’re looking to start incorporating more pain aspects into your BDSM play, the more pleasure that’s experienced, the more one’s tolerance to pain is increased. One way to practice this would be to give your submissive oral sex, sensually and deliciously, and then when they’re close to climax, you could add in an element of pain such as pinching or scratching.
Whether you’re a newbie or have been practicing sensual domination for a while, this kind of practice can be adjusted and enjoyed, regardless of your level of experience. The name of the game is pleasure, so it’s safe to say that just about anyone will be well-suited when it comes to this seductively sensual bout of play.
Helena is a sex-positive freelance copywriter in her early 30’s from Cape Town, South Africa. She’s travelled and lived in various countries in Asia and Europe for almost a decade, and continues to live her dream — traveling the world independently as a copywriter. Having written for various companies and magazines within the industry, she has extensive knowledge in the field of sexual health, the escort industry, and sex toy marketing.