Gear Up and Love Yourself, Celebrate Masturbation Month Properly
This is the most pleasant month of the year – Masturbation Month, in which we celebrate the freedom to explore our bodies, and, yeeees, to have an orgasm, or two, three, four, five…
It may sound strange when you hear that someone celebrates masturbation, right? But let’s be honest, to have an orgasm means that you will enjoy strong sensations, your skin will bliss, your body will shake and dance, and your immune system will probably be grateful. If nothing from above, you will be calm, happy, and relaxed.
From its inception in 1995, Masturbation Month has been adopted and practised all over the world, ending on May 28th – Masturbation Day. While it has become a light-hearted celebration of all things self-pleasing, the holiday was actually created on a more serious note after American Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders was fired in 1994 by President Clinton for suggesting that masturbation be added to sexual health and education curriculums.
OK, now that we know everything about Masturbation Month and Masturbation Day, let’s learn how to masturbate properly.
Step One: See it before you feel it
Yes, just like you read it. If you are capable to visualize and feel the orgasm coming, you should do it. Very often. How to do it? Find yourself a perfect, quiet spot, and go to any position you like. Breath, close your eyes and think about the person you like. You can also think about the most amazing orgasm you had in your life. Or someone’s voice, smell, smile… While you visualize your body will start to wake up and you will feel sensations down below.
Step Two: Use all your tools and toys
Hands, panties, sex toys, it will all help. You can start with one and finish with the other. The most important thing is to have something close to your crotch! You can start by gently touching your body, and make a grand finale with sex toys. You can use toys for different parts of your body, different erogenous zones. Do not be afraid, explore.
Step Three: Invite your partner to join
Why don’t you try it with a company? If you are not an introvert, do not try to impress yourself with solo play. Ask your partner to join the game, and you can both explore… each other.
Step Four: Repetition is the mother of learning
There is nothing else to say – repeat for as long as you want. And please remember, enjoy the process, not the orgasm itself. And don’t overstress! With this mindset you are sure to have your orgasm(s) after all, being fully relaxed and mindful about pleasure’s buildup.
You can change the order, swap steps one and two, or combine several at the same time. You will have to take care of your partner yourself, but if you need help with choosing a sex toy, LELO will have your back (with great discounts up to 80%).
MAYsterbation is a month dedicated entirely to self-love and self-sex. So go ahead, touch yourself.
Donna is a Volonté contributor and freelancer who lives in San Francisco with her understanding husband and not-so-understanding teenage sons. Her work has been published in The Journal of Sexology and she is currently writing a book on love languages.