What Your Sex Dreams Really Mean
Do you often catch yourself daydreaming about sex? Join the club!
With daydreams we can pick and choose our pretend partners, but our unconscious minds – which are at work when we’re asleep – pair us up with some unexpected, and sometimes worrisome, people.
Because we don’t choose the subjects of our dreams, this is a topic that’s immune to judgment or overanalyzing, but they can nonetheless mean something that you’ll no doubt want to know about your waking life.
So let us ease your over-interpretations of sleep with this rundown of the most common sex dream themes and what they can actually signify.
Is your dream about sleeping with someone you shouldn’t leaving you feeling guilty? Don’t be too hard on yourself.
Having a ‘cheating dream’ can sometimes be a simple sign that the object of your unconscious desire has personal qualities that you both admire and wish you could harness yourself.
While you might have heard how sex can improve your work life, you’ve likely never had a single sexual thought about your boss, so why are they starring in your naughty night-thoughts? The answer is simple: you envy their position, or the power and prestige that comes with it.
Best Friend Sex
You and your best friend share everything; however, they may at some point feature in a dream that won’t be recounted during your next hang-out session.
Regardless of your best friend’s gender, your dream is simply a visual expression of your shared intimacy – which isn’t always synonymous with sex.
Being associated with celebrities increases your social proof and, subsequently, your desirability and power.
While boss sex dreams relate to desired wealth and emotional security, celebrity sex dreams, especially ones naughtier than even the sexiest movies, are more narcissistic in nature, highlighting our desires for attention or fame.
Upon waking, you can’t recall the face of the person you just envisioned sleeping with, and actually, they might have had no face at all.
Anonymous sex dreams are your mind’s way of expressing your desire to flirt with the unknown, get out of your comfort zone and live more adventurously.
Surprised by how little your sex dreams have to do with, well, sex? We thought you might be.
Remember: as dreamers, we are mental movie producers with no say in pre-production casting. And in reviewing any dream, it’s best to do so with a grain of salt, leaving notions of physical attraction and lust on the cutting room floor.
When it comes time to make your sexual dreams come true, use any environment as your backdrop with our guide to having sex in the great outdoors — or at least outside the bedroom.
Donna is a Volonté contributor and freelancer who lives in San Francisco with her understanding husband and not-so-understanding teenage sons. Her work has been published in The Journal of Sexology and she is currently writing a book on love languages.