BDSM

BDSM can be broken down into three categories: bondage/discipline, dominance/submission and sadism/masochism. These terms may sound intimidating, but you’ve most likely already engaged in or desired some aspect of it. Discover more.

What’s a Masochist, and Am I One?

In sex and in life, there are those who seek pain or self-denial as a means for pleasure. On the sexual side of things,...

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The Beginner’s Guide to Shibari, Japanese Bondage Practice

If you’re familiar with the world of BDSM, then you’ve probably seen the community of BDSM practitioners...

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Everything You Need to Know About Caning

We could spend all day wondering what singular moment in our lives sparked our fantasies of rods and canes. Maybe it...

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The Primal Fetish, Explained

To be primal is connected to primal urges, such as protecting oneself or others from harm. It’s often used as a means...

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(GFD) Gentle FemDom: A Kink You Never Knew You Wanted?

The images and ideas that are conjured up when thinking of BDSM and kink can sometimes be misleading or inaccurate. ...

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Ask a Doctor: Kinks and Fetishes with Dr. Zhana

Hi everyone, this is Dr. Zhana and it’s time to talk about kinks! I got some really good questions from you that I...

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Gentle Femdom: Female Dominants Unmask the Term

When you conjure the word femdom, often the stereotypical vision of a strict sadistic dominant female wearing a latex...

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Rough Sex—Why Do We Crave It?

Sex is one of the best ways to build intimacy and connect with your partner. When you’re both naked, bodies...

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What is “Sub Drop”? And How To Deal with It?

Have you ever experienced an emotional or physical high so great that it made coming back to the real world seem...

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Get Cuffed Up! Incorporating Handcuffs in Your Sex Life

There’s just something about restraint that’s so damn sexy. It’s a tantalizing proposition; being presented with...

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What (and Why) Are Cock Cages?

Male chastity—the act of men avoiding or inhibiting their sexual desires—is a huge turn-on for guys seeking...

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Yuletied: 5 Ideas for Kinky Holiday – Themed Role Play

There are many that might argue against the sexiness of this season, what with the heavy meals, shopping stress and...

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Coming Down: Why Do Some Doms Experience Top Drop? And How Can Their Subs Support Them?

Think about a time when you experienced a huge rush of positive and exciting emotions, like riding a roller coaster or...

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Is a Female-Led Relationship (FLR) Right for You?

Every single relationship is unique – that’s what makes love so fantastic. Power dynamics, our little shared...

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H is for Happy, Horny & Hogtied!

For many of you, throwing the words ‘happy’ ‘horny’ and ‘hogtied’ into the same sentence seems like a...

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The Joys of Pain and Suffering – World BDSM Day

Fifty shades of hip hip hooray! It’s BDSM Day. And what exactly does BDSM actually stand for? Well, there are a few...

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