Dirty talk; we’re all no doubt familiar with it, cooing mock-erotic epithets in our lover’s ears for a giggle – but how many of us actually use some sultry sayings during lovemaking? Even the chattiest Cathy clams up at the thought of making things awkward with some misinformed phrasal usage, and they’re right to feel that way; because dirty talk isn’t as easy as it sounds.
As with anything worthwhile, there are rules that you’ve got to abide by to make sure your erotic utterances comes off as genuinely sexy – they’re simple, but often overlooked;
Say what you mean
Is your partner in for a spanking? Are you? Will you bind them with handcuffs or put them in a blindfold to up the pleasure factor? Well then say so! Giving sexy spoilers will make clear your intent while building anticipation in your partner for what’s to come. More than this, it gives them a chance to weigh in on whether or not they’re into what you’ve got in mind.
Do as you say
When it comes to dirty talk, always, always follow through with your promises – otherwise what’s the point? Not going through with what you just said you would do will throw off all the expectations you’ve built up, and render the impact of further dirty talk moot.
So now you know how you can actually use dirty talk in your lovemaking, now what do you actually say, and how do you say it? A rule of thumb is that sexy is contagious; if you’re saying something that would turn you on, it will no doubt have the same effect on your partner.
Now that you’re in the know about the ins and outs of dirty talk, give it a try during your next sensual session and let them know what you’re thinking about doing, what you’re currently doing, and what you just did to them. No matter what though, keep a good sense of humor about the situation you’re in, because having a giggle together is a valuable thing to share.