Virtual BDSM: A Guide for Beginners

The BDSM scene has been growing for a number of years. Thanks to the internet, there are now so many more resources and articles out there that can help direct people through new possibilities and experiences for their sex or masturbation.

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But there are ways to explore BDSM without even leaving your bedroom; thanks to the world of remote interactions and sex toys. Have you ever wondered how to get involved in virtual BDSM? Are you separated from a long-distance lover, or are you looking to practice your skills with online partners? This article has got you covered. 

Talking dirty

You don’t need to be in bed with your partner to engage in a bit of pillow talk. In fact, it can be a lot easier to practice your skills talking dirty to someone if you aren’t face-to-face. Whether you want to try out your skills on the phone, via text or using video call, you can engage in some dirty conversations to get your heart racing through whatever medium you want. 

If you are shy about talking dirty, there are a number of tools and approaches you can take to get your confidence up. There are even chatbots to help you practice.

Edging 

Edging is a great way to open yourself up to BDSM, especially if you aren’t sure where you might fit in in this space yet or consider yourself more “vanilla” in the bedroom. Edging is the prolonging of masturbation through slow and steady techniques. 

Rachel Needle, PsyD, a Florida-based psychologist and sex therapist, says there are a number of benefits for edging. It can help improve communication between partners, which is a great practice for BDSM. Good communication is essential for a safe and consensual experience for both partners. Virtual BDSM will be entirely reliant on virtual and text communication, which can sometimes be a little easier to navigate for beginners or those new to the scene. However, it can allow you time, privacy and space to work through your fantasies and how you can communicate them to a partner. This is a skill you can transfer to your bedroom in real life. 

Wearable Tech 

Wearable couples’ vibrators are great because they can be placed inside your vagina whilst also stimulating your clit at the same time. Thanks to the wireless control function, you can try more positions and let yourself go! Let your virtual partner know you are wearing one whilst they direct the positions. By allowing someone else to guide your masturbation, you can reach new levels of excitement and pleasure. 

Remote Control

If you are really desperate to get into virtual BDSM, you need to check out the F1S V2 sextech console. In short, it revolutionises sex-toy use between partners and solo users by allowing them to enjoy remote control features. It works using a mobile-app that syncs with the toy and controls the strength of the vibrations and the vibration patterns. You can even go one step further and let your virtual partner design patterns and waves that will deliver endless bounds of pleasure. This means that you can still give them an orgasm from a thousand miles away! 

Erotic Stories

Receiving adoration via letters, texts and emails is hot. Everyone likes to feel loved and appreciated, right? But, have you ever tried writing an erotic story for your partner? It can be a fantastic way to communicate your fantasies in a sex-positive way, as well as allowing you to work through them, too. Think of it as ‘erotic journaling’ that captures your secret desires. 

Orgasm Denial

Everybody knows that intense and irreplaceable feeling you get right before you climax. But did you know that you can intensify that feeling further by stopping right just before you orgasm? Well, you can! If you haven’t tried out orgasm denial yet, it is a key component to both BDSM and virtual BDSM. It allows partners to practice subservience and domination by prolonging a climax. 

Orgasm denial can mean different things for different behaviour. Some may tease their partners, or ask them to play with themselves. It involves a lot of communication, which can be great for virtual settings. According to MensHealth, practicing orgasm denial can be useful to train your mind and body that sex, masturbation and foreplay should not necessarily always revolve around the orgasm. Learn to enjoy the journey and you can have hours of endless pleasure. 

Forced Orgasms

Practicing forced orgasms and being on the receiving end might be a little tricky if you’ve never done it before but it’s a hugely rewarding experience. By giving up control and allowing someone else to command you through a masturbation experience can be a really hot experience. It’s great to practice in virtual settings because it can help you feel connected with your partner and learn what signals they give when they are nearing orgasm.