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Dear LELO: What Does a Vibrator Actually Feel Like?

Dear LELO,
I’ve read your articles about choosing your first sex toy, but as someone who has never used anything during sex before – unless you could a ribbed condom – I want to know what a vibrator actually FEELS like?
Vibrator Virgin

What Does a Vibrator Actually Feel Like

Dear Vibrator Virgin

When you’ve been in the buzzing biz as long as we have, it can take a lot to stump us, but your question managed to do it. In fact – we took the afternoon off to go home and do some research into how best to answer your question about vibrators!

We could tell you that it feels like putting an electric toothbrush to your nose, only sexier, but that isn’t super helpful. Nor would it be helpful to tell you that it feels as satisfying as sneezing glitter after feeling it build up for a few minutes. (However, according to different people in the office, it feels like both of those things!)

What Vibrators can Feel Like

Vibrators can feel uncomfortable if they’re too strong or you don’t have enough lube or natural lubrication.

Vibrators can help you if you’ve been experiencing anorgasmia either by yourself or with a partner.

They can also help with ‘getting yourself in the mood’ physically or mentally if you find one of those pleasure systems is out of step, but in both this case and the above, vibrators are not necessarily a magic wand you can throw at a sexual problem you’re having (despite their name).

Vibrators can feel silly. We would be lying if we had never found ourselves with a vibrator between our legs and three windows of porn on, wondering if the buzzing is too loud and wishing our orgasm would hurry up.

Vibrators can be a game changer. For some people, it is the piece they’ve been missing when it comes to truly enjoying sex or reaching orgasm, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of if that’s true for you!

Sex toys – and positions, and dirty talk, and kissing styles – are all deeply personal, in that we all have things we like or want, and things we don’t. Half the fun is figuring that out!

A Bit About Different Vibrations

When it comes to the nitty gritty of vibrations, not all will feel exactly the same. They will come in different strengths and patterns – at least, when you’re shopping with LELO they do! – but they also can be buzzy, surface level vibrations, or deeper, more rumbly ones. Whether the vibrator you’re using has a fine point or a broad surface will affect the sensation, as well as whether you’re feeling it externally on your clitoris or perineum or internally on your G-spot or prostate!

Some things you’ll only be able to find out by taking one home and experimenting, but a benefit to visiting an actual sex store is that there are usually products out that you can test against your hand, and knowledgeable sales assistants who know the ins and outs of every vibe in the shop.

It might feel scary taking the plunge on your very first vibrator, but satisfying your curiosity is sure to be an enjoyable journey!

About Lea Marsden

Lea hails from Colorado, but has packed up her bags to travel around Europe and dispense sex advice and relationship wisdom from her laptop in any cafe she can find.

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