When we talk about size and sex, there is usually a focus on penis size, which can cause plenty of anxiety to those who have one.
But in reality, concern about your size is something that also worries many women; one only has to visit maternity forums to realize the concern many have over having a vagina that is bigger, and sometimes even having one too small.
We can confidently assure you, dear reader, that we are neither too big nor too small, we are just perfect. And, for once, this is not a comforting lie, but the actual scientific proof – and here’s why.
The Size of a Vagina
First,let’s take a step back: what do we mean when we refer to the vagina?
It’s very common in casual conversation for people to use the term ‘vagina’ to refer to the entirety of the genitalia, including the erogenous zones.However, the vagina is in fact only the canal intended to accommodate the penis and birth babies, while the exterior part that includes the clitoris and labia are called the ‘vulva.’ (By the way, if you’re concerned about having labia minora that are bigger than the labia majora – aka ‘outie lips – you’re in good company. Approximately 50% of people have vulvas that look like this.)
Now, this canal – just like the penis, like the hands, like the nose – has dimensions varying from person to person, and is generally between 6 and 9 cm, but, also like the penis, it has the ability to lengthen.
For this reason, the size of a penis (and of a vagina) count for a lot less than we think, because in reality the vagina adapts to accommodate the anatomy of the penis (or sex toy or what have you).
Excluding a few medical conditions, penetration shouldn’t hurt. If it is painful to have sex with a larger penis – or to have penetrative sex for the first time, for that matter – the culprit is much more likely to be a lack of adequate foreplay. Foreplay ensures that the vagina is expanded enough to comfortably be penetrated as well as lubricated to help things go more smoothly – though there are situations where using extra lube may be necessary.
Now, just because vaginas are pros are expanding and contracting for sex – not to mention birthing whole humans – doesn’t mean you can’t tone those muscles for better sex.
Kegel exercises are exercises that anyone can do to recover loss of strength in pelvic floor – a hammock of muscles that keep our organs in. These muscles can be naturally weak, or be weakened by pregnancy (not just vaginal childbirth).
Keeping these muscles in shape by doing pelvic floor exercises is not a means to modify the ‘size’ of a vagina; but rather to help with incontinence caused by a weak pelvic floor, and, in the case of better sex, help you achieve more intense orgasms.
Among the unfounded fears mentioned above about the vagina you are born with is the idea that using a particularly large sex toy, having a well-endowed partner or having a baby will cause your vagina to lose its shape.
But these fears are absolutely unfounded: the vagina is an elastic organ, which regains its original form over time – just a few hours after sex and few months after childbirth.
Even in these cases, having toned pelvic floor muscles can help its ability to revert back, so if you’re concerned, then just remember – lift and squeeze!