Everything You Need to Know About the Male G-Spot—And How to Stimulate It
This article was written by Social Psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller.
In women, the G-spot is an area that, when stimulated, often leads to very intense orgasms. Much has been said and written about the G-spot, and there’s still some debate about what exactly it is, but research suggests that, rather than being a distinct part of the body, the G-spot is really the area where the internal portion of the clitoris interests with the vagina and urethra.
Increasingly, people have begun to ask whether there’s a male equivalent of the G-spot—an area that can produce similarly intense orgasms when stimulated. And there is.
It’s called the prostate gland, which some have taken to calling the “P-spot.” In this article we’ll explore what the prostate gland actually is—and how to stimulate it.
What Is the Prostate Gland?
The prostate is located between the bladder and the penis, and the urethra runs directly through it. It is a relatively small organ (about the size of a walnut), but it plays a huge role in male reproductive functioning.
In fact, this gland is actually where all of the elements that make up semen combine together before ejaculation. The prostate itself secretes a big portion of the seminal fluid. This is then combined with secretions from the seminal vesicles (a pair of glands that empty into the prostate) and the vas deferens (the tube that transports sperm from the testes, which also empties into the prostate).
Upon orgasm, the prostate contracts and releases semen into the urethra, where it is then expelled from the body.
In short, the prostate plays a central role in ejaculation, which is why removal of the prostate due to cancer often leads to ejaculatory problems.
Why Is It Pleasurable to Stimulate the Prostate?
Research has found that some men report that orgasms reached through prostate stimulation are more pleasurable and intense than other orgasms. Why is that?
The prostate has a lot of nerves running through it—nerves that also connect to the penis. This may help to explain why stimulating this area can cause intense sensations.
Also, neuroscience research shows that stimulation of the prostate activates the same region of the brain as other forms of genital stimulation, which further helps to explain why prostate stimulation may be perceived as pleasurable.
But why are prostate-induced orgasms more intense? One theory is that prostate stimulation leads to a state of heightened awareness in which you are more focused on the sensations you’re feeling throughout your body. This greater awareness could potentially explain the stronger feelings of pleasure.
So How Do You Stimulate the Prostate?
There are two main ways to do this: externally or internally. And you can do either one by yourself or with a partner.
To perform external prostate stimulation, the area to focus on is the perineum (also known as the “taint”), the strip of skin located between the scrotum and the anus. By massaging the middle portion of the perineum with hands or a vibrating sex toy, you can stimulate the prostate.
External stimulation is a good option for beginners and those who don’t want to or aren’t ready to try internal stimulation.
To stimulate the prostate internally, this can be accomplished with well-lubricated fingers or a sex toy gently inserted into the rectum. The prostate is located a couple of inches inside. You can’t touch it directly, but you can stimulate it through the rectal wall by aiming up.
Tips for Prostate Stimulation
You’ll want to be relaxed and aroused before you begin in order to increase the odds of a pleasurable experience. This is especially important when it comes to internal stimulation because being relaxed will make penetration much easier. Take it slow—don’t rush it!
Don’t be skimpy with the lube either. And if you’re inserting fingers (your own or a partner’s), make sure nails are trimmed to avoid injury. Placing a condom over the finger or wearing latex gloves can also help with comfort, while also adding a layer of protection (safety first!).
Also, keep in mind that combining prostate stimulation with stroking of the penis is how many men report experiencing those super intense orgasms.
If you’ve never tried this before, recognize that it might take a little practice to get it right and figure out what feels best for you. You might need to try a few different motions and techniques. However, if it causes pain, stop. And if that area is painful in general, talk to your healthcare provider.
Lastly, if you want to stimulate a partner’s P-spot, ask them about it first—make sure it’s something they’re on board with exploring. As always, consent is key.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. Dr. Lehmiller has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled “The Psychology of Human Sexuality” that is used in college classrooms around the world. He helps people maintain healthy intimate lives through science-based, sex-positive education via his Sex and Psychology blog, workshops, and frequent media appearances.