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Better When it’s Wetter: Top Tips for Amazing Shower Sex

Shower sex is one of the most highly fantasized about quickie locations, yet remains one of the hardest to pull off. How can you overcome the logistical disconnect and make sudsy sex a recipe for success? Read below to find out!


Why Have Sex In the Shower?

Inherent Sensuality

From the warm, relaxing water to your soapy bodies and hands caressing each other, the shower is one of the most naturally erotic places to have sex.


Not only are you in a confined space, able to enjoy the sensation of each others’ wet bodies, the running water that masks any moans or gasps, so you can be as loud as you want.

Fun Bath Time Toys

This is the time to bring out your more deliciously scented body washes for their aromatic effect, and don’t shy away from the different sensations brought on by scrubs, sponges and loofahs.

As well, you can incorporate any number of waterproof sex toys, whether it be a Smart Wand™ Large for getting to all those hard-to-reach-places, or the compact ALIA™, which has a convenient handle and fits neatly into a soap dish.

Ideal Foreplay

If you find the place too narrow or too wet for your romantic acrobatics, the shower is an ideal place for a warm-up lap before jumping between the sheets. Sensual massage from both hands and showerheads will get your heart racing while you ensuring you’re both squeaky clean for oral explorations.

What Are the Necessary Considerations?

The Faucet

Not only is the faucet just waiting to poke you uncomfortable in the back of the legs, depending on the model, it can be very easy to change your perfect temperature to burning hot or freezing cold with an accidental knock of the elbow (unless you want to experiment with temperature play!)

Slip and Slide

Keep in mind that the mixture of water and soap can make the floor like an ice rink; slow and deliberate movements keep your shower fantasy sexy and not a Hitchcock horror.


Everyone knows soap in the eyes will turn your sexy shower into an uncomfortable eye wash emergency, but the same also occurs when soap enters into some of your other sensitive orifices, so watch your hands when caressing intimate parts of your partner.


For all the stereotypes about pleasure in the tub, water and natural lubrication are not on good terms. Make sure to keep a personal moisturizer with easy applicator on hand.

The Environment

No need to spend hours testing every position of the kama sutra, remember that the ideal duration of sex is only 7-13 minutes!

Shower Sex Positions

Standing Sex Positions

sex positionThe Hanging Garden: This face to face sex position is probably the most standard, but is dependent on complementary height, or the thrusting partner having the strength and balance to support their partner against the wall without slipping

The Frisk: Very simple, very satisfying and a staple of any fulfilling sex life, this standing sexual position is called ‘the frisk’ because of the receiving partner’s stance – hands against the wall, bending slightly forward, feet apart –similar to a police body search.

It’s also great because both partners can be in control of the speed and intensity of the action, as well as maintain a solid base with legs slightly father apart.

Seated Sex Positions

Union of Lotus - Sex PositionThe Union of Lotus: If you have an appropriately sized shower, this position is best if you’re concerned about slipping. The receiving partner sits in the lap of their partner for a slow motion that lets you both luxuriate in the sensation of the water falling upon you.

The Edge: Of course, if you want something a bit more dynamic, you can try this position. If your shower has a bathtub, have the thrusting partner sit on the edge of the bath with their legs inward, while their partner sits, using the wall opposite to help support.

Have we missed a critical tip for shower sex success? Leave us a comment below!


About Katy Thorn

Katy Thorn is a post-grad writer with a passion for - and a history of - writing about sex, sexuality and all that it entails. She spends her time running, reading, writing and socialising. Katy has a cat named Feargal, she loves coffee and hates writing bios.


  1. The Great British Sexpert

    Some great ideas here.

    Don’t forget for foreplay using the shower head for clitoral stimulation. If you’ve got a power shower hold on tight! 😉

    Just to reiterate to be very careful with soaps and shower gels not to let the suds enter the vagina as it can cause thrush.

  2. Great advise and thanks for commenting.

    If you are lucky enough to have a power shower, it is also a great way to massage your partner’s shoulders, back or other erogenous zones 😉 The more experimenting the better!

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