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Do Male Anal Orgasms Exist? LELO Investigates the Prostate Climax

Prostate (n.): 1640s, from Greek prostates “leader, ruler, guardian; one standing in front,” so called from its position at the base of the bladder.

For such an important part of male anatomy, a part that has an essential role in all men’s lives, there remains a lot of confusion about what the prostate is, what it does, what it’s for and how it feels when it’s massaged. We approached a number of leading experts and educators to help us answer the most common questions about the prostate and prostate massage once and for all.

Do Male Anal Orgasms Exist?

When it comes to female reproductive anatomy, we tend to be a lot more open to discussion and understanding. In the mainstream, there might still be some doubt about whether the G-spot is different from the clitoris and some might still argue that female ejaculation isn’t real. But right now, those are the two major hot topics and both are currently subject to research and conversation.

The same isn’t really true of men. Male anatomy is not so openly discussed, and as a result more interesting subjects like male anal orgasms are poorly understood. So let’s open with an obvious question:

What Is The Prostate & What Does It Do?

Charlie Glickman PhD, sex & relationship coach, author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure (available at www.makesexeasy.com), explains the prostate like this: “The prostate plays two roles in men’s sexual response cycle. First, it produces a portion of the fluid that becomes semen. During arousal, the prostate starts to fill up with this fluid, which is then mixed with sperm from the testicles and fluids from the seminal vesicles to become semen.”

But it’s not all cold, hard biology.

“The prostate is also part of a man’s pleasure response,” Glickman continues. “When the gland releases that fluid into the urethra, it squeezes and contracts. Many men are able to feel that sensation – it’s the “point of no return” feeling that happens just before ejaculation. Some guys say that a prostate massage feels like the “start of an orgasm,” but it can last a lot longer than a few seconds!”

Charlie’s right. Men who incorporate the sensation of edging into prostate massage report being able to maintain that sensation almost indefinitely.

Sunny Megatron, sexuality educator and host of the Showtime original series, Sex with Sunny Megatron, describes the prostate as “a small walnut-sized gland that produces prostatic fluid, one of the main components of semen. For people with prostates, orgasm occurs in two parts, emission and expulsion. Emission is when the prostate releases prostatic fluid into a portion of the urethra called the prostatic urethra. Here it is joined with the other components of semen. Expulsion is what we more commonly refer to as ejaculation.”

Emission and ejaculation, then, are clearly different things. In fact, some men who enjoy chastity play or orgasm denial often use prostate massage to release the sensation of needing to orgasm without actually orgasming.

So far, so straightforward, right? Well you’d think so.

If the prostate is quite simply a small organ, in front of the bladder that’s part of the male orgasm cycle, what’s all the controversy about?

Why is there a Taboo about Prostate Massage?

We put this question to each of our experts, and they all responded in similar ways. Charlie Glickman said: “When we wrote The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, we asked men what concerns they had. Over and over, we heard guys say that they were worried that enjoying prostate massage meant that they were gay. That’s one of the big taboos.”

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Psychosexual Therapist and Relationship Expert, puts it another way. “Regardless of the socio-cultural context, overall any anal stimulation (including prostate massage, internal massages specifically) is associated with homosexual tendencies and practices. Also psychodynamically, men have the object for “push” and there are not supposed to be “pushed upon” therefore although some men are intrigued with the idea but either they are conflicted about exploring this practice or their partners are reluctant to “de-masculinize” their partners.”

Sunny Megatron recognizes that prejudice but also understands how wrong it is to make the assumption that prostate massage – or any other kind of male anal play – is somehow a statement on a man’s sexual alignment. She says, “Although people of all orientations and genders can and do enjoy prostate play, heterosexual men are the least likely to discuss it openly. The assumption is that it’s not “manly” and it’s something that only gay men engage in – but that’s simply not true. It’s important to remember that sex acts don’t change your sexual orientation. Plenty of straight men enjoy backdoor play – many more than you might imagine! Luckily over the last few years more straight men have opened up publicly about the pleasures of prostate play.”

Charlie Glickman summarizes the topic with typical candor: “Sexual orientation is about who you’re attracted to. What kinds of sensations feel good to you is about where your nerve endings are. Gay men don’t magically get born with extra nerves, and heterosexual men aren’t missing any. Your sexual orientation has nothing to do with what feels good to you.”

Prostate massage seems to come loaded with significance and presumption. But perhaps there’s more to the mystification of male anal pleasure than simple taboo. After all, that taboo has to come from somewhere. Could it perhaps come from the confusing conflict of myths and misnomers?

Why is Prostate Massage One of the Least Understood Elements of Sexuality?

According to Sara Nasserzadeh, the misunderstandings about this could be two-fold:

  • Misunderstandings of the health risks and benefits of such practice.
  • Our limited and relatively new knowledge base and attention towards sexual pleasure as a component of sexual relationships and explorations.

“Our knowledge of sexual pleasure,” Sara elaborates, “is pretty new and somehow still limited. There are still misconceptions about the external organs let alone the internal ones. Also pleasure has not always been a part of our conversations when we talk about our sexuality. It was meant for procreation and reproduction, a more advanced discourse was created not long ago to talk about the emotional elements involved and now for the past couple of decades we are talking about “what gives us pleasure” in a proactive way.”

Charlie Glickman has written extensively on exactly this topic, and told us how men reacted to the discussion of prostate massage. “The idea that anal play is painful often comes up, though I notice that it’s a lot more common when we’re talking about men receiving than when we’re talking about women.

“And in addition to all of that, until we wrote The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, there wasn’t a book you could read that explained everything you needed to know. The lack of information kept people from trying it, which meant that there wasn’t a demand for a guide like that, and so forth. But ever since the book came out, we’ve heard from hundreds of men and their partners and I can promise you that more folks are trying it than ever before!”

So prostate massage is still shrouded in taboo and mystery. But it’s growing in popularity very slowly, thanks to the pleasure and the benefits it can offer. Let’s take a look.

What are the Benefits of Prostate Massage?

Is prostate massage healthy? Is it good for you? These are important question and right now, they’re hard to answer clearly because part of the problem of understanding this topic is that there is so little research on it. We have a pretty good understanding of what the prostate is made of and what it’s for, for example, but we don’t know much about how we can live with it and improve it. It comes down to a simple question: is prostate massage good for you?

Luckily, Charlie Glickman, has done research. He shared some findings with us, along with a caution that this there is little medically funded proof – most of what we know is common sense.

“Massage increases blood flow, especially if it’s part of a sexual experience. That’s definitely a good thing for the prostate,” says Glickman. He continues: “There are a lot of muscles all through the pelvis and many men are chronically tight in that part of the body. That can compress the prostate and limit your range of motion. Massage can help improve that, and some men report that they have firmer erections because the pelvic muscles are more able to do their job.”

Sex educator Sunny agrees. “A number of health practitioners believe regular prostate massage helps protect against prostate related health ailments including prostate cancer. Studies indicate it flushes out toxins, fluids, and helps clear blockages that aren’t affected by ejaculation alone. In addition, it relieves tension and increases blood flow to the area which also positively affects health.”

Glickman expands on the science behind Sunny Megatron’s comments: “The prostate is actually full of tiny, fluid-producing glands. And just as glands in your skin can get blocked, so can the glands in your prostate. Although ejaculation also squeezes fluids out of the prostate, it might not be strong enough to do the job if anything is trapped, so massage may be more effective.”

“Disrupting the Biofilm”

For those reasons and more, that’s why prostate massage is especially important. Bacterial prostatitis, which is a swelling and inflammation of the prostate doesn’t respond to antibiotics and one of the causes is the presence of a biofilm. Glickman explains: “That’s when a colony of bacteria produces a shield that protects them from the environment. Massaging the prostate may disrupt the biofilm, which would allow antibiotics to be more effective.”

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh does have access to some solid research information to support the health benefits of prostate research.

She tells us: “It has been reported that regular prostate massages could help with men’s quality of erections and even elicit one (we have solid research among men with spinal cord injury who report having an erection after prostate massage).”

Is a Prostate Orgasm Different from Other Orgasms?

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh shared some information with us that really goes deep into the science behind this.

“Our colleagues at Rutgers University completed a study under Dr. Komisaruk’s, mapping the male genital system including the prostate and are analyzing the more complete data. What they found is that sensory input from the prostate projects to the same region of the genital sensory cortex as the rest of the genital structures. This is probably the basis for men claiming that prostate stimulation can feel erotic. The study first was done to find out more about the sensory innervation of the prostate because it may be sensate in men with complete spinal cord injury; but of course it will take further research.”

See the research findings here. (pdf)

How do You Massage the Prostate?

This question is succinctly answered by Sunny Megatron: “Although the prostate can be reached with fingers it’s near impossible to do solo without the aid of a tool. If you have a partner to help with the massage it can be very stressful on their fingers, hands, and wrists making it difficult to maintain for long periods. Massagers not only make things easier in that regard, the vibration also gives more pleasure options than a stationary object.”

Conclusion

So let’s recap our findings. Orgasm can be achieved through prostate orgasm alone. That taboos around prostate massage are unfounded. That there are tangible, provable health benefits to prostate massage, and that vibrating prostate massagers are the best way for men to attain this kind of pleasure. Oh, we didn’t cover that? Well we’ll let Charlie Glickman do it for us.

“Massagers make it a lot easier to explore prostate play on your own. It can be tricky to reach your own, so a pleasure product can help a lot. Plus, many men enjoy prostate massage for longer than their hands or their partner’s hands can keep going. A toy will have you feeling amazing for a lot longer, so you can enjoy that much more pleasure. Plus, massagers are easy to combine with partnered sex, like oral sex or intercourse. So you have a lot more options.”

About Donna Turner

Donna is a Volonté contributor and freelance writer who lives in San Francisco with her husband and two sons. Her work has appeared in Psychology Today, Go! Magazine (Australia) and is regularly featured in the San Francisco Herald.

6 comments

  1. NO WHERE absolutely no where can I find anything in your articles that addresses POOP in the anus. There is always going to be something left over. It takes away from the Mood and it’s nasty! So what – an enema every time?

  2. Hey Ann, thanks for commenting. We touch on it briefly here and how that there mostly likely won’t be anything left over. Of course this varies person to person and depends a lot on diet!

  3. Someone said the ass doesn’t get wet on it’s own , all I can say is that’s a lie , my ass gets s soaking wet when I get horny, so. However left that reply your doing it wrong

  4. Whether Dr Gräfenberg, who claimed to have discovered th female G spot, was in earnest or a fraud is a moot point. However, what authority discovered the male ‘G’ point? I know of none. I suspect it is just a justification for sodomy, which I hate because it debases both partners.I admit that the sight of a nice butt is pleasurable, as is its stroking, but penetrating the rectum is another matter altogether.

    On the other hand, why do some women like to be be sodomized? As far as I know. they have no prostate have they?

    I suspect that all these G spot orgasms take place in the brain, which is the main sexual organ.

  5. I started to explore myself when I was 10, after a couple of years I had already found how pleasurable was stimulating the perineum and anal zone. Later I got curious, and started to read whether I was gay or what. I found that it wasn’t related at all. I found woman outstandingly attractive and I’m into men. Since I discovered it was ok, even though I was in my 13, I started to slef prostate massages. I found them the very best in life. My wife is a doctor, so I have someone who really know where and how to give prostate massages xD

  6. Oh yes, anal orgasms exist.

    …the only reason this QUESTION exists is because people are probably very turned off by the littlest ammount of pain and automatically believe anal is not for me I’m doing something wrong… you’re not.
    You’re most likely not causing any harm to yourself, dispite how you feel in the moment, when:
    You’re always lubed.
    You’re always clean.
    I prefer connecting a little bathroom hose to the sphincter and fill me up a couple of times till I notice I sprout pure water. (if you do this trick you’re gonna save yourself A LOOOOOOOOOOT of DISCOMFORT and basically jump to the end of this tutorial)
    What you want before anal is a super clean and empty butt because if you’re horny and enjoying it you’re gonna go increasingly rough especially if you’re approaching orgasm and the tiniest trace of poop is gonna cause irritation and ultimately scare you off. Never have your ass fucked while not clean as a whistle.. even I couldn’t enjoy that. As soon as you feel discomfort I’m sure it’s because you’re not 100% back there, quick, rince it out in the bathroom. Doing this you’re eliminating the biggest source of irritation/damage/discomfort and thus paving way for breathtaking in-and-out, rough, anal loving.

    The sooner you realize your g-spot is gonna need motivation through only some quite violent treatment the better. You’re gonna be amazed to learn how rough your anal wants to be treated if you pay close close attention.
    Remember that an orgasm is born from sort of the panic felt from “too much” stimulus.

    Whether it’s “pain” or pleasure. Embracing ‘rough’ is key to orgasm.

    It’s odd maybe, but that’s how it works.

    Heck it’s not uncommon I discover a some blood but don’t worry: I’m probably climaxing at these points and boy I’m not stopping/slowing down any time soon, I instead choose to trust my anal who’s SCREAMING “Cry me a river, boy, give me more!” and pay less attention to the voice repeating “Ow, stop/slow down” all the time.

    Don’t hesitate! One who cums anally knows that the “pain” and “stress” that the penetration puts you through is good for you.
    Whatever sensations your anal gives you, always reply internally: “Oh wow: interesting” and stay away from lines like “Ouch, hmm”.
    Please tell yourself everything’s alright in times of any sort of discomfort because you’re gonna help your body relax to avoid injury and thus begin trading discomfort for pleasure instead.

    You’ll eventually orgasm after experiencing penetration sessions that you’ve managed to keep purely in the state of pleasure a couple of times.
    Just remember alfa and omega: make sure your ass stays lubed and CLEAN.
    If you’re not loving anal you probably went ahead too fast before making sure those two things were properly covered actually!

    Now that you know the few things you must do, let’s go through the only thing you can’t do: play with or touch your penis during anal. That’s gonna have to wait till after your anal is done coming a bunch!
    Truth is playing with your dick is gonna keep you locked inside your old comfortable state of mind/habits, you have to chose if you wanna cum with your dick once or 4x harder with my anal many times?
    To anal newbies I recommend you tell yourself the latter and touch that pecker later.
    Tell yourself your dick offer less than you deserve (anal orgasms are ~4 times stronger in my opinion AND you can come multiple times once you start embracing the slutty feeling of even trying multiples)

    My setting is most commonly this :

    First I get a really clean bum, then, I bring my favourite lube goop some on both the dildo and in my ass. Now I close my eyes imagining the hottest scenario I can think of in which I’m being fucked by a huge alfa/perpetrator.

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