Do Male Anal Orgasms Exist? LELO Investigates the Prostate Climax

This article was scientifically fact-checked by Social Psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller.

Prostate (n.): 1640s, from Greek prostates “leader, ruler, guardian; one standing in front,” so called from its position at the base of the bladder.

Do Male Anal Orgasms Exist?

It’s an important part of the male anatomy that plays an essential role in reproductive health — however for all the talk of the prostate, there is still a lot of confusion as to what it is, what it does and how it feels when it is stimulated. To get to the bottom (heh heh) of this topic and so follows our very, very in depth attempt to answer every conceivable question you could ever have about the prostate. 

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What’s a Prostate & What Does It Do?

According to sex and relationship coach and author of “The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure”  Charlie Glickman PhD, “The prostate plays two roles in men’s sexual response cycle. First, it produces a portion of the fluid that becomes semen. During arousal, the prostate starts to fill up with this fluid, which is then mixed with sperm from the testicles and fluids from the seminal vesicles to become semen.”

However it’s not all cold, hard biological talk. He continues “The prostate is also part of a man’s pleasure response. When the gland releases that fluid into the urethra, it squeezes and contracts. This results in the “point of no return” feeling that happens just before ejaculation. Some guys say that a prostate massage feels like the “start of an orgasm,” but it can last a lot longer than a few seconds!”

And he’s absolutely right: men who engage in edging — masturbating to the point of orgasm, then stopping just beforehand to prolong the feeling — report being able to maintain that sensation almost indefinitely.

Sunny Megatron, sexuality educator and host of the Showtime original series, Sex with Sunny Megatron describes the prostate as “a small walnut-sized gland that produces prostatic fluid, one of the main components of semen. For people with prostates, orgasm occurs in two parts, emission and expulsion. Emission is when the prostate releases prostatic fluid into a portion of the urethra called the prostatic urethra. Here it is joined with the other components of semen. Expulsion is what we more commonly refer to as ejaculation.”

It’s clear that emission and ejaculation are very different things. Some men who partake in chastity play or orgasm forcing or denial often turn to prostate massage in order to relieve the need to orgasm without actually having an orgasm.

Why is Prostate Massage Taboo?

We asked this question to our experts, and they all responded in quite similar ways. Psychosexual Therapist and relationship expert Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh puts it thusly: “Regardless of socio-cultural context, overall any anal stimulation is associated with homosexual tendencies and practices. Also psychodynamically, men have the object for “push” and are not supposed to be “pushed upon” therefore although some men are intrigued with the idea but either they are conflicted about exploring this practice or their partners are reluctant to “de-masculinize” their partners.”

Charlie Glickman said: “When we wrote The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, we asked men what concerns they had. Over and over, we heard guys say that they were worried that

Sunny Megatron acknowledges this bias but also understands it’s wrong to assume prostate massage – or any male anal play – is a statement on a man’s sexual alignment. “Although people of all orientations and genders can and do enjoy prostate play, heterosexual men are the least likely to discuss it openly. It’s important to remember sex acts don’t change your sexual orientation. Many straight men enjoy anal play – many more than you might imagine! Luckily over the last few years more straight men have opened up publicly about it.”

As a topic, prostate massage comes loaded with presumptions. However there is more to the mystification of male anal pleasure than simple taboo. Of course, those taboos have to have come from somewhere. Could it perhaps be the result of some confusing myths and misnomers?

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So What do We Know About Prostate Massage?

According to social psychologist and psychosexual therapist Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, misunderstandings about prostate pleasure could be two-fold:

  • Misunderstanding the health benefits and possible health risks of such practice.
  • Our limited and relatively new knowledge base and attention towards sexual pleasure as a component of sexual relationships and explorations.

“Our knowledge of sexual pleasure,” Dr. Nasserzadeh explains, “is pretty new and somehow still limited. There are still misconceptions about the external organs let alone internal ones. Also pleasure has not always been a part of our conversation when we talk about sexuality. It was meant for procreation and reproduction, a more advanced discourse was created not long ago to talk about the emotional elements involved and now for the past couple of decades we are talking about “what gives us pleasure” in a proactive way.”

Glickman has written extensively on this topic, and told us how men reacted to the discussion of prostate massage. “The idea that anal play is painful often comes up, though I notice that it’s a lot more common when we’re talking about men receiving than when we’re talking about women.

“Until we wrote The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, there wasn’t a book you could read that explained everything you needed to know. The lack of information kept people from trying it, which meant that there wasn’t a demand for a guide like that. But ever since the book came out, we’ve heard from hundreds of men and their partners and I can promise you that more folks are trying it than ever before!”

The Benefits of Prostate Massage

So we all know that sex is good for your health, and ditto for regular orgasms, but is prostate massage good for you? Well it’s hard to say because it’s such a little-researched topic.

Luckily, Charlie Glickman, has done some digging for us. He shared some findings, along with a caution that this there is little medically funded proof – most of what we know is common sense.

“Massage increases blood flow, especially if it’s part of a sexual experience. That’s definitely a good thing for the prostate,” says Glickman. He continues: “There are a lot of muscles throughout the pelvis and many men are chronically tight in that part of the body. That can compress the prostate and limit your range of motion. Massage can help improve that, and some men report that they have firmer erections because the pelvic muscles are more able to do their job.”

Sunny agrees. “Many health practitioners believe regular prostate massage helps protect against prostate related health ailments, including prostate cancer. Studies indicate it flushes out toxins and helps clear blockages that aren’t cleared by ejaculation alone. In addition, it relieves tension and increases blood flow to the area which also positively affects health.”

Glickman expands on the science behind Sunny Megatron’s comments: “The prostate is actually full of tiny, fluid-producing glands. And just as glands in your skin can get blocked, so can the glands in your prostate. Although ejaculation also squeezes fluids out of the prostate, it might not be strong enough to do the job if anything is trapped, so massage may be more effective.”

Not only for the reasons mentioned above, prostate massage is especially important. Bacterial prostatitis, which is a swelling and inflammation of the prostate doesn’t respond to antibiotics and one of the causes is the presence of a biofilm. Glickman explains: “That’s when a colony of bacteria produces a shield that protects them from the environment. Massaging the prostate may disrupt the biofilm and allow antibiotics to be more effective.”

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh does have access to some solid research information to support the health benefits of prostate research.

She tells us: “It has been reported that regular prostate massages could help with erection quality and even elicit one (we have solid research among men with spinal cord injuries who report having an erection after prostate massage).”

Check this out: How to Choose the Best Prostate Massager?

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Is a Prostate Orgasm Different from Other Orgasms?

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh shared some info that goes much deeper into the science of this particular question.

“Rutgers University completed a study mapping the male genital system including the prostate and are analyzing more complete data. They found that sensory input from the prostate projects to the same region of the genital sensory cortex as the rest of the genital structures. This is probably the basis for men claiming prostate stimulation feels erotic. The study was done to find out more about the sensory innervation of the prostate because it may be sensate in men with complete spinal cord injury; but of course it will take further research.” Wanna see the research findings? If so, you can find them here. (pdf)

So Then How do You Massage the Prostate?

Here is one question that we have answered in a myriad of ways, and you can find below a whole list of places you can look to learn more. However this Sunny Megatron provides a very succinct answer: “Although the prostate can be reached with fingers it’s near impossible to do solo without the aid of a tool, so consider investing in a sex toy made specifically for prostate stimulation. If you have a partner to help with the massage it can be very stressful on their fingers, hands, and wrists making it difficult to maintain for long periods. Massagers not only make things easier in that regard, the vibration also gives more pleasure options than a stationary object.”

Facts checked by:

Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. Dr. Lehmiller has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. He helps people maintain healthy intimate lives through science-based, sex-positive education via his Sex and Psychology blog, workshops, and frequent media appearances.

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Written by: Colin Hanna

Colin Hanna is a Volonté contributor and freelance writer who lives in Shanghai, China with his wife. He's written extensively about sex and human sexuality for LELO since 2010.


  1. NO WHERE absolutely no where can I find anything in your articles that addresses POOP in the anus. There is always going to be something left over. It takes away from the Mood and it’s nasty! So what – an enema every time?

    • Hey Ann, thanks for commenting. We touch on it briefly here and how that there mostly likely won’t be anything left over. Of course this varies person to person and depends a lot on diet!

    • Before i have anal sex i would always take an enema and have never had any residue left on my partner’s penis.

  2. Someone said the ass doesn’t get wet on it’s own , all I can say is that’s a lie , my ass gets s soaking wet when I get horny, so. However left that reply your doing it wrong

  3. Whether Dr Gräfenberg, who claimed to have discovered th female G spot, was in earnest or a fraud is a moot point. However, what authority discovered the male ‘G’ point? I know of none. I suspect it is just a justification for sodomy, which I hate because it debases both partners.I admit that the sight of a nice butt is pleasurable, as is its stroking, but penetrating the rectum is another matter altogether.

    On the other hand, why do some women like to be be sodomized? As far as I know. they have no prostate have they?

    I suspect that all these G spot orgasms take place in the brain, which is the main sexual organ.

    • If you have such hang ups over anal play, why are you reading about it? Curious behavior.

      Prostrate or not, the anus is one, if not the most sensitive parts of the body. *Most* people find one kind or another form of anal stimulation highly arousing.

      I do agree that most orgasms do occur in the brain but it’s nonsense to think that prostrate orgasms occur solely in ones head and not from the stimulation of the gland itself.

      Bull semen which is sold to buyers for artificial insemination on cows is aquired by using a vibrating device inserted in the rear. It takes seconds.

      In case your wondering, I grew up on a farm.

  4. I started to explore myself when I was 10, after a couple of years I had already found how pleasurable was stimulating the perineum and anal zone. Later I got curious, and started to read whether I was gay or what. I found that it wasn’t related at all. I found woman outstandingly attractive and I’m into men. Since I discovered it was ok, even though I was in my 13, I started to slef prostate massages. I found them the very best in life. My wife is a doctor, so I have someone who really know where and how to give prostate massages xD

  5. Oh yes, anal orgasms exist.

    …the only reason this QUESTION exists is because people are probably very turned off by the littlest ammount of pain and automatically believe anal is not for me I’m doing something wrong… you’re not.
    You’re most likely not causing any harm to yourself, dispite how you feel in the moment, when:
    You’re always lubed.
    You’re always clean.
    I prefer connecting a little bathroom hose to the sphincter and fill me up a couple of times till I notice I sprout pure water. (if you do this trick you’re gonna save yourself A LOOOOOOOOOOT of DISCOMFORT and basically jump to the end of this tutorial)
    What you want before anal is a super clean and empty butt because if you’re horny and enjoying it you’re gonna go increasingly rough especially if you’re approaching orgasm and the tiniest trace of poop is gonna cause irritation and ultimately scare you off. Never have your ass fucked while not clean as a whistle.. even I couldn’t enjoy that. As soon as you feel discomfort I’m sure it’s because you’re not 100% back there, quick, rince it out in the bathroom. Doing this you’re eliminating the biggest source of irritation/damage/discomfort and thus paving way for breathtaking in-and-out, rough, anal loving.

    The sooner you realize your g-spot is gonna need motivation through only some quite violent treatment the better. You’re gonna be amazed to learn how rough your anal wants to be treated if you pay close close attention.
    Remember that an orgasm is born from sort of the panic felt from “too much” stimulus.

    Whether it’s “pain” or pleasure. Embracing ‘rough’ is key to orgasm.

    It’s odd maybe, but that’s how it works.

    Heck it’s not uncommon I discover a some blood but don’t worry: I’m probably climaxing at these points and boy I’m not stopping/slowing down any time soon, I instead choose to trust my anal who’s SCREAMING “Cry me a river, boy, give me more!” and pay less attention to the voice repeating “Ow, stop/slow down” all the time.

    Don’t hesitate! One who cums anally knows that the “pain” and “stress” that the penetration puts you through is good for you.
    Whatever sensations your anal gives you, always reply internally: “Oh wow: interesting” and stay away from lines like “Ouch, hmm”.
    Please tell yourself everything’s alright in times of any sort of discomfort because you’re gonna help your body relax to avoid injury and thus begin trading discomfort for pleasure instead.

    You’ll eventually orgasm after experiencing penetration sessions that you’ve managed to keep purely in the state of pleasure a couple of times.
    Just remember alfa and omega: make sure your ass stays lubed and CLEAN.
    If you’re not loving anal you probably went ahead too fast before making sure those two things were properly covered actually!

    Now that you know the few things you must do, let’s go through the only thing you can’t do: play with or touch your penis during anal. That’s gonna have to wait till after your anal is done coming a bunch!
    Truth is playing with your dick is gonna keep you locked inside your old comfortable state of mind/habits, you have to chose if you wanna cum with your dick once or 4x harder with my anal many times?
    To anal newbies I recommend you tell yourself the latter and touch that pecker later.
    Tell yourself your dick offer less than you deserve (anal orgasms are ~4 times stronger in my opinion AND you can come multiple times once you start embracing the slutty feeling of even trying multiples)

    My setting is most commonly this :

    First I get a really clean bum, then, I bring my favourite lube goop some on both the dildo and in my ass. Now I close my eyes imagining the hottest scenario I can think of in which I’m being fucked by a huge alfa/perpetrator.

    • WOW! Thank you! Better than the article itself!!!

    • I hoped that somebody would address this! I would never touch myself while bottoming. It really becomes self J/O rather than sex with a partner. Focus your energy on the sensations of his penis inside you and you will ultimately have much better orgasms. And let him feel his place in satisfying both of you.

  6. I find that type of orgasm eluding. It is so hard to attain.

    • I gave it up to an absurdly hung older black gentleman when I was a young inexperienced bisexual. It was too big for me to orally satisfy him as my usual practice was at that time . Try as he might , he was huge, big around as a beer can and I’d guess 14” it was very apparent we would need lubricant. He came back with a bottle of lotion. I slathered it in and around my opening and applied a very liberal amount on his very large erection. With persistence all of a sudden , the head , size of a tennis ball slid into my anal cavity . At that point of course there was no turning back and no desire to. He proceeded to expertly ride me to an hour long , I’ve best been able to describe it as riding the wave. Wave after wave of wonderful sensation much like was described in the article . Like edging , hanging in the edge of extasy, mewing like a kitten , and feeling like , don’t end give me more ! Every time he would long stroke and hit bottom , I would shudder and let little sounds of pleasure escape . I’m not gay , married with kids , but those two sexual couplings that night with him was hands down the most pleasure I have ever experienced from sex. Anonymous

  7. very epic!

  8. I’ve experience an anal orgasm while have guy on guy sex three Times. In all three cases my penis did not get hard but I ejaculated my normal amount of cum. The first time I was on my back while the other two times I was riding cowboy style. In all three cases my partner was over 7 inches and I was using my anal muscles to squeez my partners penis to push him out on the backstroke and then relaxed to let him push back in. I mention this because I think it helped to orgasm.

  9. People attempted to convince me that the prostate orgasm was a myth. Then I gave myself several without trying (or lube, or an enema.) To those people, I now say with my firmest conviction and the wisdom of another decade’s worth of experience: Caught you in a lie, you dirty rotten rat-weasels.

    For context, I am a top. I’ve never had the inclination to put anything in my ass, and the few times I’d entertained the thought, it felt gross and unnatural to so much as attempt it. The problem is that every man I’ve ever met has expected me to bottom, at least some of the time. When I complained about this, guess what I was told—that men can’t have orgasms from their prostates. That it’s *physiologically impossible* for this to happen. “Gay sex is unnatural, don’t you see, it can’t be mutually pleasurable and you’re too young to understand why that’s a bad thing now, but you should stop liking men…” Okay, that was a caricature, but more or less the gist of the message I got from the people around me.

    I bought into it, eventually. I seriously began to worry that my boyfriend—this perfect man who is everything I wanted—had been lying to me about liking the sex, thus kicking off a terrible spiral of insecurity and jealousy. I could not, for the life of me, understand how he could possibly like something that 1) no man was supposed to like and 2) even I didn’t like. So to assuage various ugly, irrational fears, I stuck a carrot up my ass.

    It worked because it worked. It’s reptile brain level stimulus-response, as long as all emotional and interpersonal meanings and expectations are disconnected from the act.

    I’m still not going to bottom for another person. I don’t like feeling submissive, and bottoming for another person always feels too inherently submissive for my liking.

    The question remains…who is most invested in perpetuating this lie that it’s physically impossible? What are they hoping to gain from it? More sex for themselves and less for their rivals? Social control? A status symbol? The culmination of a hermetic masonic jar-sealing rite?

  10. I have had anal sex most of my adult life either with men or mostly with toys . as I do it more and more mostly on my back I get extremely wet the longer I go . my last time was almost 2 hours alone and it was amazing . I was dripping and dripping with slurping sounds . the wetter I get the more turned on and wetter I get

  11. Yes indeed anal orgasms exist – I had like six or so this morning alone! 😊😊😊😊. They are totally pleasurable and a gift from heaven!!!!

    • Six? I had 25-30 last night in about 45 minutes… and later I’m completely mind blown.

  12. I have had major orgasms deep inside my ass while being fucked. Once I went home with a guy from Puerto Rico & when I saw his cock it scared me as it was so huge. I thought it would really hurt when he would slide it into my ass and it would damage me. It did neither. He fucked me for a long time and I had two extremely strong orgasms inside my ass. This is much better than ejaculating. It lasts longer and it seemed to take over my entire body. It was like unbelievably strong pleasure emitting from my center and going out from there in all directions. I know this sounds strange but it’s the best I can describe it. I’ve experienced this a few other times with other men and wish I could be fucked and have that happen every day. The pleasure is so strong, there’s just no way to describe it. I’ve also experienced it while using a fucking machine with a large enough dildo – around eight inches – a few times and that’s wonderful beyond description but it’s best when another man makes it happen. I feel very sorry for men who never get fucked, they are missing out on one of life’s greatest pleasures.

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