Oral Sex: How To Get Your Head In The Game
Blowjobs and cunnilingus can get a little boring for the person performing it. That’s the ugly truth that not many of us would admit. After a long session, your mind can wander and your jaw can begin to ache, and no matter how much you love doing it, sometimes it can feel a chore.
So you might make pleasuring a partner more pleasurable for you?
This is the simplest and most effective way to keep your head down. Lubes and lotions have come in leaps and bounds in recent years, and now there’s a wide variety of flavors available that are good enough to put on your ice cream once your finished in the bedroom. Seriously, some of the more premium brands are now so good that you would eat them even if they weren’t sex lubes.
Toys are hugely beneficial too. Introducing vibrating sex toys into your oral sex can take some of the pressure on you to do well. Just a small bullet vibe will do fine, though if you really want to blow them away, I recommend the Smart Wand Large.
But more important than the sexy additions is your mindset while you’re performing oral sex. Some steps to prevent boredom in everyday life are equally useful with oral sex. Try talking, narrating what you’re doing as you’re doing. This is an excellent technique that keeps you concentrating and super sexy for the recipient. I know some people are uncomfortable with dirty talk, but just describing your actions is the easiest thing in the world. You don’t need to create worlds with your words.
You also need to create a relaxing space sometimes, and be in comfortable positions. Make sure the lighting is appropriate – some partners are very self-conscious in the light. Put on some porn or some music, and perhaps experiment with different positions.
Combining all this information will make you more willing to perform oral sex, and that can only be a good thing, right?
With 16 years in the adult industry, including many years at LELO, it’s fair to say Stu has been around the sex toy block a few times. As LELO’s resident sex geek, he’s been featured in the Independent, the Guardian, HuffPost, Vice, Cosmopolitan, and anywhere people talk about sex. Here on Volonte, he turns his spotlight onto the important events affecting sex right now in a regular op-ed. Views are his own.