Youth may be wasted on the young, but sex is for people of all ages. Even though intimacy takes different forms and meaning as we age, it can be just as satisfying – and the great benefits of a healthy sex life are just the icing on an already pretty delicious cake:
BENEFITS OF INTIMACY OVER 50
- Emboldened connections: between you and a partner, sex can be a great couple’s communication tool and help bring you closer together via pair-bonding hormones released after orgasm.
- Maintain health: there are a whole bunch of health benefits of having sex, both mental and physical; it can burn fat, help ward off common illnesses and decrease anxiety, so take two and call us in the morning!
- Effective escapism: it may sound frivolous, but it’s no less important that sex can be great activity to help you and someone special to simply get away from it all, if only for a little while.
- Increased life span: the improved state of mind and the sexual health benefits mentioned already could possibly add years to your life – and if not, at least you’re having fun trying, right?
Even with great benefits like the above, a lot of us worry about sex in our advanced years for reasons that exist only in our heads, and also some that are very real. Men deal with lowered testosterone as the years go by, while women grapple with diminishing levels of estrogen, both of which can be obstacles to sexual enjoyment – however not insurmountable ones.
WHAT HE CAN EXPECT
Age will affect his testosterone levels, which has side effects that will impact his sex drive, such as fatigue and depression. Many men notice no decrease in their sex drive however, as every man has wildly different experiences with this, but if you start to notice a change, testosterone may have something to do with it.
Also the hardening of arteries can affect his ability to achieve and maintain an erection. The tiny blood vessels that supply blood flow to the penis may not be working as effectively – however you can effectively cut this off at the pass and diminish the effect by including cardio in your workout routine. Meanwhile, stimulate blood flow to your intimate areas by stimulating them yourself – masturbation causes the exact kind of blood flow that’s so important to having sex, so go for some self-prescribed pleasure every now and then!
WHAT SHE CAN EXPECT
Post-menopausal women will notice that their estrogen levels have dropped, resulting in her producing less vaginal lubrication when aroused. This means that more foreplay is required to fully prepare for lovemaking, otherwise a premium sexual moisturizer can supply a quick fix.
Age can also affect women physically; as she gets older, her vagina can actually shorten and become narrower, and her vaginal walls can become thinner. Each of these changes can affect the sensations of intimacy, so we suggest embarking on sexual self-exploration to discover how your changing body takes pleasure. Masturbation can be a valuable aid to discovering what works and what doesn’t before sharing your discoveries with someone special. There is also evidence to suggest that vibrators may ease symptoms of menopause.
BETTER SENIOR SEX TIPS
Better Sex Tip #1: Communicate
This means keeping an open line of communication with your partner, as well as getting the input of a doctor if you’ve got any questions at all.
If anything, a medical professional will understand that sex and pleasure are a basic human right and have a very full grasp of what you and your body are going through, and what you can do to enjoy yourself in a safe and satisfying way.
When you’re discussing sex with your partner, be playful and honest. Humor can open the floodgates of conversation and take the pressure off what to many is a bit of an embarrassing subject. After the topic is on the table though, you’ve got to be open and honest; tell them how you feel, and what your hopes are for the outcome of your talk.
Better Sex Tip #2: Redefine Intimacy
As we age, sex takes on a broader definition and can mean many things – sometimes, sharing intimacy is more important, and fulfilling, than sharing pleasure.
Sex can be about being content with each other; sharing affectionate contact like hugging and kissing (clothing optional) can be just as rewarding as a sexual session, and usually ends up leading to it, too!
Better Sex Tip #3: Experiment
Sex isn’t about recreating experiences we had when we were in our 20s, it’s about figuring out what works for us right now. As in tip #2, try stimulation without penetration. Oral sex, mutual masturbation or just fooling around together with some sex toys are just as enjoyable when they’re shared.
Try changing your sex routine and schedule to a time when you’re full of more energy; many people have their best sex in the morning after a good night’s sleep rather than at the end of a long day. Also consider switching up your sexual positions to ones that are more comfortable and useful for both your sensual needs, like spooning or woman-on-top.
Better Sex Tip #4: Let It Go
Don’t ever dwell on how things are different now compared to your younger years, and always keep a positive attitude and open mind for the pleasurable things to come. You’re older and wiser; you know your limitations and strengths – and your acceptance of all these things makes you that much more attractive to prospective partners.
Own your age and experience – they don’t own you!
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