Master the Art of Giving Great Head! 50 Blowjob Tips He’ll Love!

So you want to give your partner a blowjob that’ll make his knees weak? Yeah, we’ve got you covered! We’re so well-versed in the art of giving great head, in fact, that we’ve compiled a mega blowjob guide with 50 blowjob tips. Go from zero to hero in a matter of 5 to 10 minutes (or however long it takes you to read our mega blowjob guide!)

Whether you’re giving your first ever blowjob, have some experience, or are simply looking for new ways to improve your skills, we’re sure you’ll find something useful in our blowjob guide! 

Ready to drive him wild? Great, let’s start…

Blowjob Tip 01: Setting the Mood

Anticipation is everything! So instead of jumping to and heading straight for his shaft, create a sensual and sexy mood that’ll get him hard before you start giving him a blowjob. This will make it even more stimulating. You could do this by kissing, licking, and touching his other erogenous zones, like the nipples, perineum, neck, thighs, and/or ears. 

Blowjob Tip 02: Be Vocal

Depending on what your partner likes, you can use your sexy voice to amp up his arousal. If he is more of a submissive type, you could give him instructions such as, “Sit down and take your pants off,” or “Put your hands behind your head”. Or, if he’s not such a fan of taking instructions, you can tell him about the things you’re about to do or are doing, or ask him questions like, “Do you like it when I…” or “How turned on are you right now?”

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Blowjob Tip 03: Breath Play (A Different Kind…)

We don’t mean having him or you withhold your breath, but we do mean using it to your advantage. When you start giving him a blowjob, you can lick slowly and seductively along the length of their shaft, then softly exhale your warm breath on him. If you’ve got breasts, you could also glide your nipples over him too.

Blowjob Tip 04: The Wetter the Better

There’s just no denying it, wetter is better! And there are different ways you can keep his shaft nice and juicy. You could spit just above his shaft, so he can watch it dribble down, or spit onto your hand when giving him a handjob. A dry handjob can be uncomfortable and sometimes painful for him, so make sure to get those juices flowing. If you’re not such a fan of spit, or you have a dry mouth, you could make use of your favorite lube! There are tons of flavored lubes too, to make it even more tantalizing.

Blowjob Tip 05: The Shaft vs. The Head

The most sensitive part of the penis is the head, especially under the rim, which means that when your tongue whirls around this sexy spot, it’ll be an instant mood enhancer. You could use your hands to jerk his shaft, and your mouth to tease his head. If you’re new at this, or perhaps your partner is a bit on the larger size, you can stick to this method. But if you feel comfortable doing so, change it up later by placing more of the shaft into your mouth. 

Blowjob Tip 06: The Rhythm (of the Night)

Think about your own oral sex or masturbation routine. Do you use a certain rhythm and find that it gets you there every single time? The majority of the time, this is the case. So, when you’re giving him a blowjob, be sure to keep to a nice rhythm. If you’re using your mouth and hands, try to keep them both going at the same rhythm (in the same direction will make it less confusing for you). You could then add in a few twists and turns, like twisting the wrist a certain way to see what gets his engine revving. 

Blowjob Tip 07: Lips vs. Teeth

You’ve probably heard it before, in real life or in a film or TV show, “Ahh! Teeth!”. The general rule when it comes to giving a blowjob is lips over teeth. In fact, let’s just say that the absolute rule here is: no biting! Try pulling your lips over your teeth during ‘the deed’ to avoid any biting or accidental discomfort for him. It’s not too hard to do if you imagine that his penis is a popsicle!

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Blowjob Tip 08: The Erection

If he suddenly loses his erection while you’re giving him a blowjob, try not to take it personally. It’s not a reflection of you, and there are a handful of valid reasons why he may have gone soft. Things like stress, tiredness, medication, and/or erectile dysfunction can cause him to lose his erection. A possible solution, in this case, is to move the pleasure elsewhere or take a little break.

Blowjob Tip 09: All Five Senses

We’ve already mentioned that being vocal is great (not just words, moans too!), but don’t forget about the rest of your five senses. Why not light a few scented candles for the smell and ambiance or wear a gorgeous perfume or cologne? Or add a bit of flavored lube for extra flavor, and take a few cheeky glances into his eyes during the blowjob… it’ll drive him wild (more on that later).

Blowjob Tip 10: Cheeky Action

A nice little analogy to create even more pleasure would be, as we mentioned earlier, to envision yourself licking a popsicle. Now, think about when you’re really going for that sweet treat and your cheeks go concave. Yeah, that’s an excellent trick to use while giving him a blowjob.

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Blowjob Tip 11: Doing a ‘Good Job’

Because everyone derives pleasure from different things… and expresses said pleasure in different ways, there’s no ‘official’ way of knowing that you’re doing a ‘good job’ (well, unless they literally tell you!). If you’re wondering if your partner is enjoying your art, look for signs of grunting, heavy breathing, or hip thrusting. Or, if you’re a talker, go ahead and ask if they’re enjoying it!

Blowjob Tip 12: Eye Contact

There’s just something so erotic about looking into your lover’s eye while giving them a blowjob. It’s usually a massive turn-on for him as he watches you give him head, and watching his pleasure will, in turn, often aid in even more arousal for you.

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Blowjob Tip 13: The General Area

A blowjob need not consist of solely jerking and sucking his shaft. It’s actually a whole lot more erotic if you go for the surrounding areas, such as the balls and the perineum. Some men also like to enjoy anal pleasure. Gentle licks and/or using your hands and fingers on these areas could be that little extra boost that he may just love!

Blowjob Tip 14: Relax & Enjoy or Bring It to a Halt

Confidence is sexy! Claim your sexiness and trust in your skills, it’ll not only make the whole experience hotter for both of you but will also create sexier energy. If you’re feeling nervous or uneasy, your partner will most likely pick up on it. In this case, if you’re too uncomfortable, communicate this to your partner. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

Blowjob Tip 15: Taking Breaks

Dry mouth, tired hands, tired in general… if you feel a little bit overwhelmed, you can always take a break! This doesn’t mean you have to end everything abruptly. Instead, make your way to another part of his body or mention that maybe he should return the favor.

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Blowjob Tip 16: There’s No One-Size-Fits-All

There isn’t a manual on how to give the best blowjobs in the world because, well, an amazing blowjob is subjective to the receiver. Some people like this, others like that. This is why there is no ‘wrong way’ to give a blowjob. When you’re with a new partner, it’s about experimenting and exploring their likes and dislikes, and finding out what their perfect blowjob is.

Blowjob Tip 17: Stroke Everything!

While you’re stroking his shaft, remember that his ego would adore a bit of stroking too. It’s true that many men are concerned about the size of their penis, so use your words, sounds, and enthusiasm to let him know that his penis is the “biggest, best, and most beautiful you’ve ever seen”.

Blowjob Tip 18: Don’t Like Giving Head? Then Don’t!

Consent is sexy. If you don’t like giving blowjobs or you just don’t feel like doing it at one particular moment, don’t! There’s absolutely no reason why you’d ever need to do something you don’t want to or don’t feel comfortable with. If that’s a deal-breaker, then he’s definitely not the one for you.

Blowjob Tip 19: Deep Throat

Deep throat…some love it, others hate it. Either way, it has a strong potential to cause a gag reflex. And on the erotic scale, a gag reflex is a hit-or-a-miss. Some men may love it when their partner gags, and that might increase the giver’s arousal too. But if gagging is something you’re not a fan of, say so or stop. This will benefit everyone, as anxiety can be a trigger response to gagging. That means that if the giver isn’t having a great time, they’ll feel even more uncomfortable. On the other hand, if you’re wanting to deep throat, you can practice your gag reflex whilst brushing your teeth. Do this by brushing the back of your tongue with your toothbrush whilst envisioning yourself not gagging. Over time, this should decrease your gag reflex.

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Blowjob Tip 20: Deep Throating to Remove Dry Mouth

Did you know that when we’re choking, our body produces more saliva? This is in an attempt to save our life, essentially. So, when you’re giving a blowjob, you can actually get rid of that dry mouth if you decide to deep throat. 

Blowjob Tip 21: Some Men Don’t Like Blowjobs

We like what we like. Some people love kissing, others hate it. You may like receiving oral, but maybe you don’t like giving oral. Sensuality and sexuality are fluid and personal to each individual. With that, your partner may just not like receiving a blowjob… and that’s fine! Try not to take it personally or start an investigation as to why he doesn’t like them. If he’s comfortable enough to tell you, he will. Sometimes it’s just a matter of preference, other times there could be an underlying reason for it.

Blowjob Tip 22: Spit or Swallow?

Men, before ejaculating, anywhere, in the general area of your partner, ask. If you’re aroused by the thought of coming in her mouth, inside of her, on her body, or on her face, this should be something that’s discussed and agreed upon before playtime. This is simply the act of following sexual boundaries. If you’re not a fan of cum, that’s totally fine. It doesn’t have to mean anything else other than the fact that you just don’t like semen. For those who do enjoy swallowing, however, swallowing semen is mostly safe, but some STIs can be transmitted via oral, like gonorrhea. HIV however can only be transmitted via oral if the giver has any open sores in their mouth.

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Blowjob Tip 23: Hygiene

As a general rule, being clean before receiving oral is just good practice. And for men who haven’t washed their penis and scrotum with soap and water, a build-up of dirt and bacteria can occur. This not only tastes not-so-wonderful for the giver of oral but can also increase the risk of transmitting STIs. If it’s a touchy subject to bring up, why not suggest taking a shower together before any other fun begins?

Blowjob Tip 24: Tongue Texture

A blowjob usually consists of hands, mouth, and tongue. Your tongue is important in this sexy trio because it provides warmth, texture, and wetness. It’s a feeling that’s hard or impossible to replicate. And one of the best techniques is to keep your tongue soft in your mouth as you go up and down his shaft, while the tip of your tongue is great to use on the head of his penis and the frenulum. A sparring amount of tongue flicks can be an interesting change of pace too if you feel like giving it a go.

Blowjob Tip 25: Purple!

Don’t get freaked out, nothing is going to turn purple (well, we hope not at least). But sex experts suggest that if you act as though you’re about to say the word ‘purple’ whilst giving oral, your lips will create a little pout that’s irresistible to most penis-owners. The fish-faced position leaves your lips curved and soft while allowing for a great amount of suction. 

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Blowjob Tip 26: An Extra Lil’ Something

A blowjob need not only involve the penis and scrotum. In fact, there are other erogenous zones nearby that have the power to drive him crazy. The perineum, for example, the area of skin between the scrotum and the anus, is rife with nerve endings. And then, of course, there’s the prostate, which is located inside of the anus. Talk with your partner and find out if they’d like to experience a different kind of sensation during your next oral sex adventure. But remember to go slow, use a lot of lube, and stop if you’re feeling uncomfortable.

Blowjob Tip 27: Smells

Whatever your genitals, we all have a unique smell. This is unavoidable and normal. The way that we smell is determined by a number of factors, from the things we eat to the brand of body wash we use. For that reason, don’t expect your partner’s penis to smell like roses and sunshine because it won’t. This is not to say it will have a bad smell (unless they’re unhygienic!), but if you’re uncomfortable with the day-to-day smell that a penis accumulates after being inside pants and/or underwear all day, opt for a sexy shower together.

Blowjob Tip 28: Uncircumcised?

An uncircumcised penis is when the foreskin that covers the head of the penis has not been removed. This foreskin will cover the penis when it’s not erect, but pull back when erect. Some may be nervous to give their uncircumcised partner a blowjob, but there’s really no need to be. In fact, foreskin is actually full of sensitive nerve endings, which means he has the power to experience even more pleasure. For that reason, be more gentle. Use minimal suction, play with the foreskin lightly by massaging or pulling it back, and don’t forget to give the shaft some love too.

Blowjob Tip 29: Circumcised?

The thing about circumcised penises is that they’re sans a foreskin, which means that all those extra-sensitive nerve endings aren’t there. That doesn’t mean that they don’t have any nerve endings, or that it’s impossible for them to be aroused (absolutely not). But it does mean they may be more prone to wanting things like deep throat. 

Blowjob Tip 30: Safe Blowjobs

As we mentioned, blowjobs are relatively safe, but with any sexual activity, there is always a percentage of risk. For that reason, we recommend getting tested with your partner before playtime or using a condom for all your after-dark activities. On the plus side, using a condom during oral will allow him to come inside your mouth without actually coming inside your mouth (if that’s what you’re both into). 

Blowjob Tip 31: A Different Ball Game

Remember, the balls are just as important as the shaft and just as sensitive. So be sure to give them some extra sensual attention. The level of sensitivity varies from the penis to penis, so either ask or learn via practice what makes him feel good. Perhaps gentle licks may be amazing for some, and others may love having their balls massaged.

Blowjob Tip 32: Massaging the Balls

If your partner is all about having his balls massaged, you could gently cup them in your fingers and create wave-like motions. This creates a ‘running water’ kind of effect, which may be highly erotic for the receiver. Or, you could give them a soft squeeze by cupping them, adding gentle pressure, then releasing them. Alternatively, you could grab your trusted vibrator and tease his balls with rumbling vibrations. 

Blowjob Tip 33: Don’t Forget the Frenulum

The frenulum is the underside of the tip of the penis, where the shaft and the glans meet. This area is loaded with nerve endings and is usually the most sensitive spot. And thus, using gentle flicks using the tip of your tongue against his frenulum, either up and down, side to side, in circles, or all three, is a great idea to really get him feeling aroused. 

Blowjob Tip 34: Suck and Blow

A neat little trick to create a new kind of sexy sensation would be to lick your partner teasingly on a specific part of his penis, and then blowing softly on the wet area. This will create a cooling sensation, and a perfect way to start off your blowjob, like a sensual build-up to all things to come.

Blowjob Tip 35: Submissive Blowjob Position

When it comes to blowjob positions, you could follow the style that’s unique to the two of you. For example, if you’re more submissive, you could get down onto your knees while he stands in front of you, creating a dominant feeling for him. And if you want to take things a little further, you could have your hands tied or cuffed behind your back, be topless or naked, or glance/hold eye contact with him.

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Blowjob Tip 36: Dominant Blowjob Position

If you’re wanting to take the reins, acts such as pushing your man onto the bed, getting on top of him, and running the show is a sexy way to be dominant. Again, if you want to take things further, you could handcuff him or even blindfold him while you go to town.

Blowjob Tip 37: Give and Take?

Whether you adore giving blowjobs or not, the best philosophy is to have low expectations, i.e. you’re not always going to have the favour returned. And that may be fine for some who don’t particularly like receiving oral. But for those who do, try not to think of your sexual encounters as a means of giving in order to receive. Even though sharing is technically caring.

Blowjob Tip 38: Time is (Not) of the Essence

There’s something so tantalising and sensual when there’s a build-up of excitement. So instead of diving in, mouth first, try to tease and please your partner a little before taking him in your mouth. The key is not to rush, but to take your time and turn it into a full-body experience. If you’re feeling rushed, the receiver may pick up on that energy, making it less sexual for them.

Blowjob Tip 39: Foreplay is Fun Play

So often, we’re taught to believe that penetrative sex and orgasm is the big prize, but in actuality, it’s the whole journey. Foreplay can be so amazingly versatile, ranging from great oral sex to massages, couples sex games, kissing, fondling, couple sex toys and so much more. In fact, there need not be penetrative sex at all. Sex is anything you want it to be.

Blowjob Tip 40: Enthusiasm Earns You a Gold Star

Like we mentioned, when you’re rushing a blowjob, your partner may pick up on it, which could literally be a boner killer. That’s why we recommend getting yourself into the right headspace to give head. For example, why not start with a few dirty texts if you’re in the mood, which may lead up to a meeting and all kinds of fun play? Because if you’re giving him a blowjob when you don’t really feel like it, you’re probably not going to enjoy it and you may not do such a good ‘job’.

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Blowjob Tip 41: Over-the-Pants Action

Another foreplay technique that’s great to build up the erotic tension is to rub him over his pants, after a few sensual grabs and fondles elsewhere. Feel him grow as you finally reach the crotch area, and allow the anticipation to rise before finally getting up close and personal. 

Blowjob Tip 42: Is His Penis Happy?

If you or your partner aren’t very verbal during oral, take your cues from his penis. If it jumps and throbs, then it’s happy. If there’s pre-come involved, it’s very happy. You can then guide yourself according to how his penis feels, and what you’re doing to make it so very happy.

Blowjob Tip 43: Face Fucking

When you’re at a point where you’re comfortable with your partner, and you give them full consent to do so, allowing them to take control of the blowjob can be a huge turn on. In other words, they can either thrust themselves into your mouth using their hips, or move your head accordingly. This definitely isn’t for everyone, so this is merely a suggestion for those partners who are intrigued to give it a go.

Blowjob Tip 44: Edging

Edging is a fantastic little technique that everyone can enjoy. It’s basically when you bring your partner (or yourself) to near-climax, and then remove the stimulation to give yourself a little breather. In this way, you’re building up the orgasm even more, resulting in a pretty magical release. Give it a try the next time you’re giving your partner a blowjob and see how they like it!

Blowjob Tip 45: Orgasm Denial

In the realm of BDSM, orgasm denial is similar to the above, but instead of taking a breather when your partner is near-climax, you stop altogether. This kind of practice is usually enjoyed between dominants and their submissives, and is a form of power play and ultimate sexual control. A more intense version of orgasm denial would be to deny your partner all genital stimulation.

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Blowjob Tip 46: CBT

CBT stands for ‘Cock and Ball Torture’, and granted, it is an extreme practice, so it’s not for everyone. It involves applying pain to the penis or testicles, either by kicking, spanking, squeezing, ball busting, flogging, kneeing, etc. And while this isn’t directly a blowjob tip, if both partners are interested in giving it a go, it is something you may want to experience during foreplay. 

Blowjob Tip 47: Footjob

For a little twist, you could substitute, or include, a footjob into your blow job routine. Again, this is more of a kinky practice, but some may find it very arousing to give and/or receive. It involves one person using their feet to rub and stroke their partner’s shaft. It’s similar to a handjob, yet involves using the feet instead of the hands. 

Blowjob Tip 48: Cock Rings

As we mentioned in Blowjob Tip 08, there are tons of reasons why a penis owner may not get or stay hard. It happens! This is why you may want to incorporate a cock ring into your playtime. This nifty device is worn by him and constricts the blood in the penis so that he is able to stay harder for longer. There are tons of innovative cock rings to choose from, including vibrating ones and rings for couples. The even better news is that it’s great to use during blowjobs but also during penetrative sex!

Blowjob Tip 49: Temperature Play

Fancy trying a different kind of stimulation? Temperature play is when hot or cold items are used during foreplay to create various sensations. These different items arouse the skin neuroreceptors and thus create a rush for the one experiencing the stimulation. It can also be quite unpredictable, making it extra erotic for some. Temperature play can include using ice, candle wax, using glass sex toys, or using warming/cooling lube.

Blowjob Tip 50: Consent is Sexy

Our final blow job tip? Consent is sexy! All of the above are merely tips, guides, and recommendations to enjoy between two consenting adults. Remember, consent is when both partners agree to any kind of sexual activity whilst being of sound and mind. Consent can be given or taken away at any time and doesn’t need to be verbal. Listen to your partner, be mindful of their body and what their body language is telling you, and always stop when consent has been revoked!

With consent, all of the above can be enjoyed… and so much more!