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His Manhood is Too Big: HELP!

The old adage of never getting enough of a good thing isn’t always true; too much red wine with dinner makes us late for work the next day, too much rum raisin ice cream with our red wine makes us have to hit the gym more, but too much penis? That can make a girl run away screaming.

His Manhood is too big

A quick look through our internet histories proves that extra-large penises do in fact exist, but when these rare specimens are encountered in real life and not on a monitor, your brain begins swimming with questions. How does he walk around with that thing? Did it just look at me? How am I ever going to get that in me?

Since beginning this blog and asking for reader questions, what to do with a penis that’s too big has been one of the most common among them, meaning that unlike the unicorn, a super-sized penis is no mythical beast. When encountered out in the wild, there are a few tricks to have up your sleeve to tame that overly endowed mega manhood.

Never forget the Three F’s: Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay

After you’ve prepared yourself mentally, prepare yourself physically – and have fun doing it – by not skimping on the foreplay.

LELO Siri RedTake extra time with teasing to more properly prepare your body, allowing your sexual juices to begin flowing and getting your vagina well and properly ready to take on whatever comes along. Have him do this by focusing on your hot spots with his fingers or tongue, or by having him use a small, palm sized vibrator on you to add that extra oomph.

Also remember that the penetrative sex part of sex isn’t always the be-all, end-all of intimacy; mutual masturbation, oral sex, manual stimulation or stimulation with a sex toy; it’s all fair game, and all contributing to the same goal of satisfaction for both of you.


Always remember the Three L’s: Lube, Lube, Lube

One of the main reasons that foreplay is so important when dealing with a plus-sized package is that it helps you to naturally lubricate, making it easier and more comfortable in the insertion stage. However if time isn’t on your side and you just need it right now, then a bottle of quality sexual moisturizer is your best friend.

Apply it to the head and shaft of his sizable sex organ, as well as a dab on your vaginal opening to help him glide in and make the entire passionate process a much simpler, and much, much more comfortable process.

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Be sure to recall the Three S’s: Slow, Slow, Slow

When it comes to big penises, there are two dimensions that need considering; girth, and length. Girth-related issues can be overcome with foreplay and lube, as seen in the Three F’s and Three L’s above, but an excessively lengthy love organ can present some particular problems of its own.

When the dong is long, there’s a much higher chance of his penis bumping your cervix during thrusting, which is almost always an instant mood killer, as anyone who has had their cervix smashed can agree.

A well-endowed gentleman should err on the side of being gentle, man; during both insertion and thrusting, he can’t go barging in like it’s the opening scene of Saving Private Ryan. What you want to use is patience and an even pace during penetration, and avoid the pain.

Spend the first few minutes of penetration with him making shallow thrusts before going deeper; this will be more enjoyable for you, as the nerves that we derive the most sexual pleasure from reside in the first two to three inches inside the vagina. Have him work this sensitive spot for a while, then increase the insertion when you’re good and ready.

It behooves you to keep in mind the Three P’s: Position, Position, Position

The cowgirl position offers you the perfect amount of controlAs long as you choose your sex position wisely, even the biggest penis can be tamed.

Sexual positions that offer you total control are the ones you should go for, as they allow you to dictate the depth and pace of penetration, and position him and his large penis exactly where you want them.

With a well-hung guy, the classic girl-on-top position offers you this perfect amount of control, as you use your thighs to control depth, and get a great workout at the same time!

This is not to say that there are impossible positions that you simply cannot do if he’s got a large one; any and every position can be tried and enjoyed by both of you if there’s a healthy degree of bedroom communication. Letting him know what works, doesn’t work, and how things feel gives you just as much control as being on top, which, if you recall, makes up the Three C’s: Communication, Communication, Communication!

About Katy Thorn

Katy Thorn is a post-grad writer with a passion for - and a history of - writing about sex, sexuality and all that it entails. She spends her time running, reading, writing and socialising. Katy has a cat named Feargal, she loves coffee and hates writing bios.


  1. What do ya do with a guy has a small penis? 1 who’s under 5inches!

  2. Jerry Ferraiuolo (@JerryFerraiuolo)

    Teach him to use his tongue, get some nice toys.

  3. Sometimes there’s such a thing as too much – but no matter what the size, every woman needs to make sure her guy keeps his tool in good health. Too many men neglect this, thinking, “Hey, it takes care of itself.” Men need to daily use a first rate penis health cream to keep their equipment in solid shape. The best cream will have vitamin A (which addresses that specific penis odor some men develop), as well as a powerful antioxidant like alpha lipoic acid, which helps avoid that dry, wrinkly penis look.

  4. Having experience with this, I’d say definitely let him know what works and what doesnt for you, otherwise it can be a mood killer. Having said that I find sit can also depend on how i’m feeling.. sometimes its fine, others not… all about mutual understanding.

  5. Mike, what part did you agree with?

  6. Actually being on top can be uncomfortable too, all your weight is an obstacle as it pulls you down on him. Especially if you are short, and have short legs. I’ve found that being on my stomach and him behind me is actually a really great position. Also regular doggy style.

  7. Snap! I find being on my tummy is good but traditional doggy is just too much sometimes. The best position I find though is sitting up face to face while I’m on my knees- lets me decide how much I can take!

  8. I really like the Three’s… Hahahaha…

    Nice post btw and great idea flow…

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  10. Size matters, but the most important thing is to please your partner.

  11. This really helped thanks

  12. Myself and my fiancée are issues because i have a large and girthy penis and her vagina is small and not use to such a large penis. She can’t last to long because it tends to hurt her. I try eating her out on and off to keep things going but when she climaxes were fine until i continue to hit her gspot and her legs give out and we have to stop. Ive explored BDSM for years while shes only have “average” sex so i sacrifice for her but it gets frustrating when i dont get to climax vaginally because she cant take how long i can last in bed plus my penis size. Any suggestions to make it easier on her?

  13. Sonya Parson-Morris

    Pop continue to eat from the front and back, suck her toes, and give her the long d and she will have the best orgasm and won’t have time to think of anything else but try to keep getting that feeling. I love that pleasure/pain feeling. That’s what makes it good. Try positions that she has more control and feels less penetration.

  14. I for one enjoyed my ex’s large penis. I believe it was an acquired taste for me. I actually enjoyed the pain and according to my ob/gyn I had trauma to my cervix. With emotions anything can be enjoyable.

  15. I have a large penis but my girlfriend doesn’t seem to care. She said she likes it as it is but, I can’t help but feel guilty after sex when she experiencing pain in THAT part. However, even if I want to be gentle in making love, my gf urges me to thrust faster and harder even if it hurts her so I researched on how to have sex with large penis for my girlfriend. I think this article helped. Thanks!

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